Theresa

Decided to go out today to buy a few summer things, although summer is hardly here yet, even in California.

I felt the need to do something for me.
But, a pattern I have noticed with myself is that when I am in the process of having a good time, I seem to be the one to throw a wrench in the works, i.e. enjoying myself, when bang, a thought of my son will pop into my head, about what I should or could be doing for him. I move through this place, again, and again it seems.
Its like why should I be having a good time, when he is suffering.
Anyone else go through this?
Any solutions?

Love and hugs,

Theresa

JT

Absolutely!

He's feeling bad so if have fun it is almost like cheating on him...yeah I have been there and I have gotten past it. How?

I know now that he has made his own choices and he is an adult and I can't change it..and I have tried and tried to fix it and I can't. And my being miserable isn't going to change it either... my best efforts didn't change a thing...that's how I got on with life..


Paula

Theresa

Thanks, Paula. It helps to hear it again and again!!!
Talk to you soon,


Hugs,

Theresa

Morning Glory

It wasn't that long ago for me. I felt really guilty every time I ate because I didn't know if my son was eating or not. The time I left him out in the cold, I actually got up and turned my heater off because I felt like I should be cold too if he is cold. I know one thing for sure, if it had been the other way around, he wouldn't have given me a thought.

I think it helps to put ourselves in there shoes and think "What would I do if this were me?" Then realize that they have that same choice. Then realize that they are choosing not to make that choice.

MG