I'm NOT going to .... But I wish I could drink socially
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I'm NOT going to .... But I wish I could drink socially
Just wanted to vent!!!!! Frustrated today at a birthday party all parents are drinking, except me, all the mims are like god I can't live with out wine. One mom asked how I got so thin said I stopped drinking........I don't think she could have looked my disturbed unless I had told her she was UGLY! Which thankfully I did not 
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remember why we do not wish to drink
Originally Posted by InperfectlyMe 
Frustrated today at a birthday party all parents are drinking, except me
it get's much better with some sober time under our belts
we only need to remember why we do not wish to drink
for me anyway
there are a lot of good solid reasons
we only need to remember why we do not wish to drink
for me anyway
there are a lot of good solid reasons
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I've been to two events the past two days where everyone was drinking. Only me and hubby weren't it seemed like. I had to tell a few people I don't drink. No one seemed weirded out though. They don't have to know you had a problem, there's many reasons people don't drink.
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I think most alcoholics feel the same way. Because getting drunk in fun situations can be, well, a lot of fun.. most of us has great fondness for it and a lot of great memories (with the bad).
But I have to remind myself that for every 1% of 'I'll remember this night for the rest of my life' there was the 99% of 'drunk all day and sick all day'.. the cost of the rest of my life to be able to imbibe at a birthday every now and then just isn't worth it
But I have to remind myself that for every 1% of 'I'll remember this night for the rest of my life' there was the 99% of 'drunk all day and sick all day'.. the cost of the rest of my life to be able to imbibe at a birthday every now and then just isn't worth it
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Originally Posted by InperfectlyMe
I'm am glad I didn't and I really don't care what they think.
All the best.
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Its Cool not drinking as the masses all follow each other poisoning themselves. I honestly and maybe smugly pity people that have to drink, You gotta change your mindset and thoughts. Sober is cool and rebellious .
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I feel the same way
Alcohol is EVERYWHERE in our society and I often find myself in situations where EVERYONE around me is drinking..... at concerts, BBQs or parties. I decided to turn sobriety into my way of rebelling against the norm and while I don't chastise folks who drink (or smoke pot), it makes me feel very good to know that I have made a positive change in my life.
Congratulations on your strong resolve.
Congratulations on your strong resolve.
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I miss the social aspect of drinking, but now I am able to go to parties and events and be myself, and the best part? I remember it all the next day, lol. It takes some time, but its all about building confidence, setting reasonable little goals and achieving them.
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Being around social drinking at a party can bring up romantic memories of my past drinking. 
Oh sure, just a couple drink's to get into the party grove. One of my nieces can do it, a few drinks, say, once or twice a month.
. Can't just remember the 'fun times' without forgetting the misery, anguish, suffering caused by my addiction.
All that matters is you did not pick up a drink!
Every day sober is a victory!
Well done and keep moving in your recovery.
Oh sure, just a couple drink's to get into the party grove. One of my nieces can do it, a few drinks, say, once or twice a month.. Can't just remember the 'fun times' without forgetting the misery, anguish, suffering caused by my addiction. All that matters is you did not pick up a drink! Every day sober is a victory! Well done and keep moving in your recovery.
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Originally Posted by InperfectlyMe
Just wanted to vent!!!!! Frustrated today at a birthday party all parents are drinking, except me, all the mims are like god I can't live with out wine. One mom asked how I got so thin said I stopped drinking........I don't think she could have looked my disturbed unless I had told her she was UGLY! Which thankfully I did not
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I used to hate such situations. I would have to try tohold back after having a few. I was so easily distracted and wanting to get home and start drinking. On occasions I would drink too much at the event and it turned ugly.
Now can go enjoy the company and the festivities.
I cant recall the last time i had a craving. When i was drinking, and "moderating" i had them a lot
Now can go enjoy the company and the festivities.
I cant recall the last time i had a craving. When i was drinking, and "moderating" i had them a lot
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