4 in the morning and I am so angry (Vent)

Old 06-01-2013, 05:01 AM
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4 in the morning and I am so angry (Vent)

In another post I mentioned that my daughter's addicted dad refused to sign papers so I could take her camping with some of my friends in the United States at the end of june (I am in Canada)....(In her whole life she was alone with him only twice while I went to the dentist!!!)

Well, I went to the courthouse today and met with a man from duty counsel
and he helped me fill all kinds of forms to apply for an order for permission
to travel. At the same time I applied for guardianship which I think would
make me sole guardian so that I wouldn't need her dad's permission for such
things again.

I was at the courthouse for hours and now I have to figure out how to serve
him the papers before I go visit my family on wednesday. And I won't have
an answer until june 17th! I am so angry and frustrated and sad. Having to
deal with this crap doesn't make me a good mom.My daughter was with me
while I was telling the duty counsel about her dad. Also she was hungry and
wanted some lunch but I had to let her wait and wait...We ate some after
the courthouse and drove home then I took her to the playground. I was so
tired. Just drained. Some big kid (8 or 9?) at the playground tried to climb
right over her on the slide. I kind of lost it. I told him "get the F*** off of
her".I am kind of embarrassed at my behavior but then I was exhausted and
so sad and I just couldn't deal with some kid hurting my daughter.(she's only
3). Some little kid (4?) also almost knocked her right off the slide, she was
dangling over the side... I just felt like screaming and asking what was wrong
with the kid and why were the parents accepting such bad behavior. I didn't
say anything but I felt so angry.

I am thinking of paying a company to serve my ex with the papers. i really
don't want to have a friend do it. I think it's likely to cost around $200-250
for them to drive all the way to his place and serve him and then go to the
courthouse to file an affidavit of service. I just don't feel like I want a friend
to be involved...

In the long term having the sole guardianship will probably be a good thing but.....WHY COULDN"T HE JUST SIGN THE DAMN PAPERS????
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Old 06-01-2013, 05:50 AM
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I am not sure where you live in Canada, I know some papers can go by
registered mail as proof of delivery..try to search with words such as
who serves legal documents in your province and if Reg.Mail is accepted.

Good luck..this has to be more than difficult as I realize you are pressed for
time.

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Old 06-01-2013, 07:42 AM
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In the US law enforcement can serve them for a fee. Google your town and "process servers"...I'm served subpoenas all the time (for work) And I believe the woman once mentioned she gets $35 each time. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. You'd think he'd want his daughter to experience some good lifetime memories. Sounds like he has a case of bitter beer face to me. I'm glad you had help completing all the paperwork...such a daunting process but it will be time well spent. You'll have a great time on your trip and so will she!!
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Old 06-01-2013, 08:34 AM
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I hope you are able to things resolved on the serving of the papers soon. Serving papers is tough.......

As far as the playground goes.....I remember having a very similar situation occur when my son was around two. I was in the midst of divorce, dealing with my AXH, waiting for my house to foreclose on me.....it was just a big pile of stress. I had words with some kids that were probably 7 or 8 who were standing up on a platform and my son was under them. They started to spit down at him. I was pretty harsh......and I'm not proud of my behavior or what I said to them......I understand. When we know better, we do better.

You'll be in my prayers today. Take care of you.

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