amber915

My dad went into inpatient rehab for the first time 4 years ago. Since then he's relapsed so many times I lost count. I just found out last night he's at it again worse then any time before. Apparently he got a bonus check from work and decided it was a good idea to go buy crack with it. He's spent 2,000 dollars on crack in the past couple of weeks and doesn't even care. I called him yesterday and I felt bad that I didn't know what to say to him. I feel so bad for him he said hell never get it since its been 4 years and he's so active in NA and he does the 12 step program too. I'm beside myself I just don't know what to do for myself or him.

CharlieNoogan

Frankly, there is little you "can do for him" other than offer your support if he chooses recovery. Unfortunately, chronic relapse is a symptom of addiction.

You should focus on what you can do for you. Have you considered Al-Anon?

AnvilheadII

aw sweetie, i'm sorry....i was once a crack addict. i can't imagine if my daughter knew...........can you step back from dad a bit? for you own sanity??? crack is a big badass hombre and you can't fight this battle for him. there's just no room for you in between him and the pipe. that's not personal, that's just the way it is. it has his brain hijacked.

there is good news...he has been to treatment, so he has learned the tools. he has been to NA, so he knows where to go for help. it's a matter of HIM being really really ready to be done for good.

Pamel

also I think there is Nar-anon?

amber915

I have been to nar anon there's only 3 meetings on my state tho

zoso77

Kiddo, you can't do anything for him. I know that's difficult to accept, because when someone we love is destroying themselves, we want to help. But trying to help only makes things worse for you. Right now, you need to keep your wits about you.

I would look into Al Anon because there are generally more meetings than there are for Nar Anon. Right now, you need support in person. Please keep us posted as to how you're doing.

ZoSo

Kindeyes

I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this.....addiction is hard to watch.

What can you do for him? Love him. But remember that unconditional love does not mean that we have to unconditionally accept bad behavior. Have boundaries for yourself. When/if it's too painful to be around your Dad.....it's ok not to be.

Take care of you.....that's the most important thing you can do for you and for your Dad.

gentle hugs
ke