Encouraging Codependancy?
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Encouraging Codependancy?
A complete stranger from a legal advice board I posted my situation on about how to get my sister out of my house just gave me some advice that I feel really defensive over.
They basically said - aw! She is an A, she needs help, call AA and get her some help, throwing her out on the street isnt going to help her!
UMMMMM, I didnt cause it, I cant control it, I cant cure it. Right?
I was just like WAIT! This trying to help her and the inclination for me to fix her life is what got me here to begin with!
They basically said - aw! She is an A, she needs help, call AA and get her some help, throwing her out on the street isnt going to help her!
UMMMMM, I didnt cause it, I cant control it, I cant cure it. Right?
I was just like WAIT! This trying to help her and the inclination for me to fix her life is what got me here to begin with!
Dear Terrispots, most people are not going to understand alcoholism or co-dependency either--unless they have direct experience. Most of what the general public knows about the subject is urban myth.
This fact can be very frustrating, at times. You just have to have compassion for their well-meaning ignorance---or just ignore them. In some cases--if you have the patience--you can educate them. Be careful not to preach, though--that is guranteed to turn people off.
sincerely, dandylion
This fact can be very frustrating, at times. You just have to have compassion for their well-meaning ignorance---or just ignore them. In some cases--if you have the patience--you can educate them. Be careful not to preach, though--that is guranteed to turn people off.
sincerely, dandylion
Absolutley!!! Even parents who have alcoholic children don't get it. They don't live with them or see their full blow addictive behavior or their ability to manipulate your sanity right of your head. The parent is still looking for "why do you drink" or "who's fault is it that you drink"....very frustrating!
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You posted on a legal advice board...not an addiction/recovery board. Different audience. The "normies" who have never experienced what we experience not only don't get it, they CAN'T get it. So you can delete that message and move on.
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Yeah, I was hoping to get some advice on how to get her out of my house.
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