Negativity
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Negativity
Friday, April 26, 2013
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Negativity
Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive patterns.
Negative energy can have a powerful pull on us, especially if we're struggling to maintain positive energy and balance. It may seem that others who exude negative energy would like to pull us into the darkness with them. We do not have to go. Without judgment, we can decide it's okay to walk away, okay to protect ourselves.
We cannot change other people. It does not help others for us to get off balance. We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.
Today, God, help me to know that I don't have to allow myself to be pulled into negativity - even around those I love. Help me set boundaries. Help me know it's okay to take care of myself.
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
Negativity
Some people are carriers of negativity. They are storehouses of pent up anger and volatile emotions. Some remain trapped in the victim role and act in ways that further their victimization. And others are still caught in the cycle of addictive or compulsive patterns.
Negative energy can have a powerful pull on us, especially if we're struggling to maintain positive energy and balance. It may seem that others who exude negative energy would like to pull us into the darkness with them. We do not have to go. Without judgment, we can decide it's okay to walk away, okay to protect ourselves.
We cannot change other people. It does not help others for us to get off balance. We do not lead others into the Light by stepping into the darkness with them.
Today, God, help me to know that I don't have to allow myself to be pulled into negativity - even around those I love. Help me set boundaries. Help me know it's okay to take care of myself.
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A timely post,LMN.
I grow tired of a 'friend' whose technical expertise I have found invaluable
to me (for over a decade) in a motorsport/hobby I enjoy.
We are both of an age where the 'infinite possibility' part of our lives is over--
the book is pretty much written and our decisions (for better or worse) have
run their course.
His endless tirades all have the same 'pylons'----why plan for the future,why
have a family----when it is inevitable that the US/world economy is going to implode,
and there will be nothing but a post-nuclear future for all of us.
My beef......(that I have never shared with anyone).... is this:
"You have a perfect plan for armageddon.If the H-bombs fly,you have chosen a
perfect course.You have nothing and noone to lose,and have that .01% probability
COVERED".
"What you DON'T have----is any coherent plan whatsoever for the 99.99%
probability that encompasses EVERYTHING ELSE.And to be honest---the rest of us
TIRE of your endless negative diatribes".
We all have encountered these types.They are best ditched....and fast! A
good friend gave me some advice years ago----that I found to be terribly cold at
the time.
He said "Avoid the company of losers,for their despair is contageous".
While I cannot condone the cruelty of those words---I had to concede there
were uncomfortable elements of truth in them.And the truth is that the only reason
I (enabled) the addict way back when---was that she was one of those 'rays of
sunshine' who worked hard to brighten the days of others.......until addiction stole
her tomorrows.I didn't want to see someone so positive go down so hard.
I'm old (52).I'm tired of listening to endless negative diatribes,be they personal,
political,or chemical.Far from being a Pollyanna--I have done extremely well for myself
and my family,but refuse to donate any more of my time feigning interest in the sadly
predictable lamentations of the broken,the derailed,and the bitter.
Life is just WAYYYYYYY too short for that.And YES---that means I don't want to
hear any more about the "trilateral commission"!
I think that's why I like SR.Such courageous people,fighting such a cruel
and cunning foe.Doing it with grace and elan......and even humor.
Not only did they help me when I needed it----they inspire me.And THAT,
my friends....is the human spirit at it's finest!
I grow tired of a 'friend' whose technical expertise I have found invaluable
to me (for over a decade) in a motorsport/hobby I enjoy.
We are both of an age where the 'infinite possibility' part of our lives is over--
the book is pretty much written and our decisions (for better or worse) have
run their course.
His endless tirades all have the same 'pylons'----why plan for the future,why
have a family----when it is inevitable that the US/world economy is going to implode,
and there will be nothing but a post-nuclear future for all of us.
My beef......(that I have never shared with anyone).... is this:
"You have a perfect plan for armageddon.If the H-bombs fly,you have chosen a
perfect course.You have nothing and noone to lose,and have that .01% probability
COVERED".
"What you DON'T have----is any coherent plan whatsoever for the 99.99%
probability that encompasses EVERYTHING ELSE.And to be honest---the rest of us
TIRE of your endless negative diatribes".
We all have encountered these types.They are best ditched....and fast! A
good friend gave me some advice years ago----that I found to be terribly cold at
the time.
He said "Avoid the company of losers,for their despair is contageous".
While I cannot condone the cruelty of those words---I had to concede there
were uncomfortable elements of truth in them.And the truth is that the only reason
I (enabled) the addict way back when---was that she was one of those 'rays of
sunshine' who worked hard to brighten the days of others.......until addiction stole
her tomorrows.I didn't want to see someone so positive go down so hard.
I'm old (52).I'm tired of listening to endless negative diatribes,be they personal,
political,or chemical.Far from being a Pollyanna--I have done extremely well for myself
and my family,but refuse to donate any more of my time feigning interest in the sadly
predictable lamentations of the broken,the derailed,and the bitter.
Life is just WAYYYYYYY too short for that.And YES---that means I don't want to
hear any more about the "trilateral commission"!
I think that's why I like SR.Such courageous people,fighting such a cruel
and cunning foe.Doing it with grace and elan......and even humor.
Not only did they help me when I needed it----they inspire me.And THAT,
my friends....is the human spirit at it's finest!
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Vale, personally, I can relate to the "don't hang out with losers" you stated. Someone told me something similar once and I thought it was a bit judgemental or rough, maybe. BUT, at 44, I am going to have to say...my advice was "Don't hang out with losers because you will, believe it or not, become a loser, too, given enough time and association, guaranteed." It was correct, in my opinion, based upon what I know now but it took two decades for me to see it as well as understand it. Everyone will not agree and that is to be expected and even ok. But man, oh man, it is spot on in my book now.
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peacedove,
I once asked a Priest friend of the the family why he was always "dumpster
diving" by visiting prisons.His reply was illuminating.He said "if you're in the God
business---THAT is where the action is---not telling bored Yuppies in the suburbs
what they want to hear".
It matters not in this world where you are----all that matters is the direction you are going.
There is something raw and true and authentic about 'the real deal'.It is the
difference between a glossy pamphlet describing a boutique rehab and the "blood,
sweat,mud,and tears" of the pages of SR.It is not always pretty----but it IS honest.
I am profoundly grateful and honored to have interacted with every single contributor.
(With the sole exceptions of those HOGS who always finish off Anne's cheesecakes
before I even pick up the paper plate----YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!!!!)
I once asked a Priest friend of the the family why he was always "dumpster
diving" by visiting prisons.His reply was illuminating.He said "if you're in the God
business---THAT is where the action is---not telling bored Yuppies in the suburbs
what they want to hear".
It matters not in this world where you are----all that matters is the direction you are going.
There is something raw and true and authentic about 'the real deal'.It is the
difference between a glossy pamphlet describing a boutique rehab and the "blood,
sweat,mud,and tears" of the pages of SR.It is not always pretty----but it IS honest.
I am profoundly grateful and honored to have interacted with every single contributor.
(With the sole exceptions of those HOGS who always finish off Anne's cheesecakes
before I even pick up the paper plate----YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE!!!!)
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I know! I hate when Anvil and Ann eat alllll the cheeesacake and won't leave you any. Please know Vale, I plead, I beg and threaten, I try maniipulation and ultimatums but nothing works. They just eat it anyway. Being powerless over others can be so exhausting. Sigh!!
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Originally Posted by Vale 
.......says LMN as she wipes the last vestiges of cheesecake from the
corners of her mouth with a napkin.............
corners of her mouth with a napkin.............
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Vale--agree with the direction reference. It's up from here for me!!
I have no friggin' idea what in the world happened with the rest of the thread on cheesecake, cheesecake and more cheesecake stuff but ok...i get there is something about cheesecake and it's a thing here. Not even sure I need to know. LOL.
I have no friggin' idea what in the world happened with the rest of the thread on cheesecake, cheesecake and more cheesecake stuff but ok...i get there is something about cheesecake and it's a thing here. Not even sure I need to know. LOL.
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......you first!
Vale, i don't HAVE a problem with cheesecake, i can quit any time i want! in fact i quit last nite when i went to sleep! i think YOU are exhibiting some serious cheesecake seeking behaviors tho!
Vale, i don't HAVE a problem with cheesecake, i can quit any time i want! in fact i quit last nite when i went to sleep! i think YOU are exhibiting some serious cheesecake seeking behaviors tho!
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You gotta warn a girl...I had to roll somebody named Edna who is "special" to get this cake here on time. Edna will learn "acceptance" and "detaching from cheesecake" very soon so it's all good.
Enjoy...and no pigging out. Anvil and I shall go first...just to make sure it's okay. Come on Anvil, grab your fork and let's go!!!!
Enjoy...and no pigging out. Anvil and I shall go first...just to make sure it's okay. Come on Anvil, grab your fork and let's go!!!!
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Originally Posted by Vale
... I'm old (52).
Last edited by Ann; 02-08-2018 at 10:21 AM.
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I have a personal problem with being negative. Then, my bf is also negative, and it rubs off on me (and I'm sure mine runs off on him, too). It's a hard habit to change. I'm much better than I used to be. There are some negative people in my life that I do have to avoid. They are even more negative than I. They just bring me down and bring me into the negative swirl. I'm not sure what to think about those really positive people, though. Are they real? They amaze me.
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Dark cannot creep into a room filled with light....but a very small light can run the darkness away.
I hang on to my light each day, not willing to give it up for anything or anyone. If someone is negative I don't let their darkness intrude on my light space. They can join me in the light or stand in the darkness alone.
Life is meant for joy and gratitude, anything less means more work is needed.
Hugs
*and maybe more cheesecake*
I hang on to my light each day, not willing to give it up for anything or anyone. If someone is negative I don't let their darkness intrude on my light space. They can join me in the light or stand in the darkness alone.
Life is meant for joy and gratitude, anything less means more work is needed.
Hugs
*and maybe more cheesecake*
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