Need some ? answered please help?
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Need some ? answered please help?
Hey gang, I need some help with some questions: Why would my exahgf tell me she still loves me but is with another ah man? She want to work things out with me and start a new relationship with me. He has no job no money NOTHING!!! But she is still with him now and she is planning on dumping him soon. She wants me but I am unsure about things. Any advise would be helpful!
To be blunt, she doesn't really sound like she is in any condition to be in a relationship with anyone right now. Just because someone says they want to be with you doesn't mean you have to jump in with both feet. Otherwise, you'll likely end up just being the next guy she's about to dump for someone else. Good luck to you, you deserve better than that.
He has no job no money NOTHING!!!
We all love to hear "I love you"....it warms our hearts and makes us feel NOT so alone.
Some things you first need to ask yourself before getting involved with her again.
Is she still drinking?
What has SHE changed since you broke up that would make having her back worth it for you?
IF she's willing to USE this guy until she has another one (you) what's to say she won't do that to you as well?
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I am sorry, but I need to be blunt also - The simple answer is "Because alcoholics lie." Even if it is something as sacred as saying "I love you." Who she is will be dictated by her actions, not her words. Even "she is planning on dumping him soon" may be a lie.
Being lied to is painful, and for those of us that try to lead lives with integrity, it is often difficult to accept the levels of deceipt that we experience with active alcoholics.
Off topic - Just a guess here - but "Go Hokies?!?" (If I am way off, then ignore)
Being lied to is painful, and for those of us that try to lead lives with integrity, it is often difficult to accept the levels of deceipt that we experience with active alcoholics.
Off topic - Just a guess here - but "Go Hokies?!?" (If I am way off, then ignore)
leads to heartache
to be very honest with you
when we add it all up
it just don't look that great
it is so nice to find one that is not attached
usually only leads to heartache
onehigherpower
when we add it all up
it just don't look that great
it is so nice to find one that is not attached
usually only leads to heartache
onehigherpower
I have to agree with hydrogirl here. There is no "good" reason. One thing I have learned though my experiences is that you cannot expect truth in words or logic in actions from an actively drinking A. I'm also really sorry you're hurting. Sending you hugs.
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