New and a normie
12stepwife
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Moreno Valley ca
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New and a normie
I'm new too all of this. I have been told I'm a 'normie'. My fiancé is an alcoholic. When I met him he had 4 years sober and was the manager of a Sober Living home. We fell in love and he relapsed. He was in relapse for over a year and is now in a rehab and working a 12 step program. I am learning all I can to help him and help myself. He is back to the man I fell in love with but I know that other horrible guy is just one drink away. I'm told I'm a codependent and an enabler and I want to learn not to be these things. That's why I'm here. I'm here to learn.
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12stepwife
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Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: Moreno Valley ca
Posts: 13
I will be attending my first Alanon meeting Monday evening. My Alcoholic told me I was and enabler and his counselor told me I was co-dependent. I've been reading things about this and I guess I am both of those things but I don't want to be. I didn't know I was.
Welcome 12stepwife. I hope you find the encouragement and support you need here. This is a wonderful place with many helpful & wise people. Sorry to hear of your husband's relapse. I know how confusing and heartbreaking it is. Hoping things are on the mend for you both.
They have a saying in AA " you need to stay on your side of the street" meaning its my problem not my wife's if she still chooses to drink.. I don't think you're an enabler.. You didn't hold him down and make him drink.. Obviously you shouldn't leave a bottle of booze in the center of the kitchen table.. My 2 cents
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