At my wits end
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At my wits end
I am new to this web site. I am mother and
Wife of an alcoholic. Looking for guidance and
Support. My husband is a struggling alcoholic.
He does identify that he has a problem but
refuses to seek counseling or go to AA. He says God
Will heal him. I am a believer in God but also know
An addict needs treatment.
It has gotten to the point he becomes very
Belligerent AND verbally abusive when he drinks.
He tries to make me feel guilty about complaining;
saying
that he does work and provide for our
family. He tells me that I'm depressed because of my
own personal issues. It got to the point, I
Had to reach out to my family for support.
I am also looking to go to Al Anon for additional
support. I would appreciate any advice on coping
With this. Thanks..
Wife of an alcoholic. Looking for guidance and
Support. My husband is a struggling alcoholic.
He does identify that he has a problem but
refuses to seek counseling or go to AA. He says God
Will heal him. I am a believer in God but also know
An addict needs treatment.
It has gotten to the point he becomes very
Belligerent AND verbally abusive when he drinks.
He tries to make me feel guilty about complaining;
saying
that he does work and provide for our family. He tells me that I'm depressed because of my
own personal issues. It got to the point, I
Had to reach out to my family for support.
I am also looking to go to Al Anon for additional
support. I would appreciate any advice on coping
With this. Thanks..
Sobriety is Traditional
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Location: Orcas Island, Washington
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It is my hope that you will find what you need at Al-Anon, and SoberRecovery will help you on that path. Please check out the threads in the Friends and Family section.
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I highly encourage you to get some help. You need to learn how to effectively deal with the alcoholic that has taken over your husband's mind. Be sure to go to the "Friends and Family" section of the forums. That's where you will find the best help.
I wish you well.
I wish you well.
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Your husband seems to be selfish and manipulative, not to mention in denial about his drinking. Please do go to AlAnon for face to face help. Also look at our friends and family forum for more insight.
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Originally Posted by Adam88 
I am new to this web site. I am mother and
Wife of an alcoholic. Looking for guidance and
Support. My husband is a struggling alcoholic.
He does identify that he has a problem but
refuses to seek counseling or go to AA. He says God
Will heal him. I am a believer in God but also know
An addict needs treatment.
It has gotten to the point he becomes very
Belligerent AND verbally abusive when he drinks.
He tries to make me feel guilty about complaining;
saying that he does work and provide for our
family. He tells me that I'm depressed because of my
own personal issues. It got to the point, I
Had to reach out to my family for support.
I am also looking to go to Al Anon for additional
support. I would appreciate any advice on coping
With this. Thanks..
Wife of an alcoholic. Looking for guidance and
Support. My husband is a struggling alcoholic.
He does identify that he has a problem but
refuses to seek counseling or go to AA. He says God
Will heal him. I am a believer in God but also know
An addict needs treatment.
It has gotten to the point he becomes very
Belligerent AND verbally abusive when he drinks.
He tries to make me feel guilty about complaining;
saying
that he does work and provide for our family. He tells me that I'm depressed because of my
own personal issues. It got to the point, I
Had to reach out to my family for support.
I am also looking to go to Al Anon for additional
support. I would appreciate any advice on coping
With this. Thanks..
As far as waiting for God to heal him . . . My friend once told me a story about a drowning woman... She was in the middle of a lake, treading water, she prays to God "God please help me get out of this lake." Just then, a fisherman shows up in a boat, he reaches out to the lady and says "Take my hand, I'll pull you into my boat." and the drowning lady says "No thank you, I'm waiting for God to save me."
Those who help themselves and whatnot...
*after rereading . . . I take it your child is not also an alcoholic? . .*
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