BoysDad

I am at my wits end with alcohol. Life in a fog is not fun. I have never been a heavy drinker, however, even with just light beer; I don't want to be out of control with my life. Too much to lose. This is my day 3 and I was never at the point of serious withdrawals; the urges are there with a bit of anxiety.

Any help and support will greatly appreciated . . my kids deserve a better father than I've been.

ddrayer

Dad, I come here in early sobriety for the exact same thing. "I need you guys" is exactly what I was feeling. I have seen from some personal sober time, but more importantly by seeing the stories of those here, that it does get better we just have to stay sober one day at a time. I'm on day 3 as well!

fini

hello BD,

yeah, i get the "life in a fog", or for me, more of a life of absence.

absence from others, life and myself.

it's good that you're seeing where you're at and wanting to change it.
i found making concrete plans for daily predictable rough spots or planning in detail for upcoming events and daily participation in a recovery forum to be invaluable. and i read most everything i could get my hands on about people's "stories", how they got out of active alcoholism. and talked and listened and talked and listened. with others.

congratulations on day 3!

ru12

Welcome!

You don't have to wait until you lose everything to stop drinking. Life is so much better sober!

Enjoy!

least

to our family! We are here to support you in your quest to live a sober life.

Hevyn

Welcome BoysDad! I'm so glad you've made this decision. I waited too long to see the light, and paid a terrible price. This won't be you - you are on your way to a better life for you and your family.

FeenixxRising

Just hang in there; it will get better. Ignore the urges, focus on other things. It isn't easy. But for now focus on staying sober today. Tonight, when you go to sleep pat yourself on the back for staying sober. Tomorrow, when you wake-up without a hang-over and regrets, pat yourself on the back again.

Rinse and repeat

You mood and outlook will improve with a little time. The urges will decrease.

Paddler

I'm here for the exact reason you are... too many light beers, dark beers, etc... and I haven't been a good dad to my two and almost three little ones.

I asked for advice on staying motivated to stay sober earlier this morning after failed attempts after two - three week long stretches with no long term success...

I read all the replies, took them to heart... and honestly, your post has triggered just about the best advice I have seen to stay sober. We're parents... our kids deserve it.

I'm going to put a picture of my family in my pocket... along with my 24 hr. coin... and pull it out each time I get an urge.

You have motivated me. Thanks boysdad... let's better together.

Huglets

I need you too. Heavy drinking, problem drinker, alcoholic....whatever you want to call it, needs support. So happy you reached out.

Stay on these boards. They truly do help, especially during those anxiety-filled moments.

Coldfusion

Welcome, and thanks for joining the March 2013 thread.

Mizzuno

Welcome to SR! We are here 24/7/365. So glad that you found us. You can do this.

TorontoGuy28

Welcome, glad you are here.

1. Get into a recovery program ASAP.
2. Avoid people/places/situations that remind you of drinking (for 3-6 months minimum)
3. Seek counseling as part of your recovery.
4. Never forget why you decided to stop and NEVER look back.

Best of luck and keep posting.

Dee74

welcome to SR BoysDad - you'll find a lot of support here

One of the best things about being sober is knowing I can be proud of myself again - and others can be too.

glad you've joined us

D