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Hi all - I've been sober since 1.31.2013 and mostly enjoying it. Have to say I'm glad to have found this site, it's a great support.
I've been drinking for at least 30 years with a break of about 1 year in 2001. Had a nervous breakdown & severe depression. I used AA & a psychologist & religion -unfortunately I ended up very disheartened by churches and AA.
This time, I realized that my whole family was alcoholics and it if it hadn't already killed them, they were in the process or very bitter. the holidays put me over the edge with all the in-fighting and stress of being with them. I had a couple of blackouts & decided that was enough.
I'm single, no kids, just the 2 black kittehs. Very much a loner and have always been.
My method to stay off this time? AVRT and SR.
Nice to meet you all & seems to be such a supportive community. I'm looking forward to participating
I've been drinking for at least 30 years with a break of about 1 year in 2001. Had a nervous breakdown & severe depression. I used AA & a psychologist & religion -unfortunately I ended up very disheartened by churches and AA.
This time, I realized that my whole family was alcoholics and it if it hadn't already killed them, they were in the process or very bitter. the holidays put me over the edge with all the in-fighting and stress of being with them. I had a couple of blackouts & decided that was enough.
I'm single, no kids, just the 2 black kittehs. Very much a loner and have always been.
My method to stay off this time? AVRT and SR.
Nice to meet you all & seems to be such a supportive community. I'm looking forward to participating
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Originally Posted by 2blackkittehs 
Hi all - I've been sober since 1.31.2013 and mostly enjoying it. Have to say I'm glad to have found this site, it's a great support.
I've been drinking for at least 30 years with a break of about 1 year in 2001. Had a nervous breakdown & severe depression. I used AA & a psychologist & religion -unfortunately I ended up very disheartened by churches and AA.
This time, I realized that my whole family was alcoholics and it if it hadn't already killed them, they were in the process or very bitter. the holidays put me over the edge with all the in-fighting and stress of being with them. I had a couple of blackouts & decided that was enough.
I'm single, no kids, just the 2 black kittehs. Very much a loner and have always been.
My method to stay off this time? AVRT and SR.
Nice to meet you all & seems to be such a supportive community. I'm looking forward to participating
I've been drinking for at least 30 years with a break of about 1 year in 2001. Had a nervous breakdown & severe depression. I used AA & a psychologist & religion -unfortunately I ended up very disheartened by churches and AA.
This time, I realized that my whole family was alcoholics and it if it hadn't already killed them, they were in the process or very bitter. the holidays put me over the edge with all the in-fighting and stress of being with them. I had a couple of blackouts & decided that was enough.
I'm single, no kids, just the 2 black kittehs. Very much a loner and have always been.
My method to stay off this time? AVRT and SR.
Nice to meet you all & seems to be such a supportive community. I'm looking forward to participating
A useful AVR Technique to start out with is to put all of your self talk and writing about your drinking into the PAST TENSE.
eg. "I HAD BEEN drinking for 30 years." or try "I used to drink alcohol."
You will begin to recognize an internal inertia that will be resistant to that change in tense. IT wants you to keep it all in the present tense. Do you feel it?
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2blackkittehs,
Your story is so similar to mine, except I have two sons, and was married twice. My first husband died when he was 33 due to alcohol. I have taken a couple of breaks from drinking; one was a year, then another for six months.
Now I really want to "quit" for forever, and it's scary to say that word. After 30 yrs. it had become such a part of my life, that it's like learning to do things all over again, a new way.
Congratulations on 2 months of sobriety! I'm about 7 days into it, and I'm feeling at the same time both elated and scared. I am taking baby steps at living a sober life. Wow, the prospect of even watching a movie without drinking is still too much for me right now. There are triggers all around me.....
This site is such a lifesaver, I've already learned some things to give me hope and tips to strengthen my resolve.....what a journey, eh?
best of luck,
Heartfan
Your story is so similar to mine, except I have two sons, and was married twice. My first husband died when he was 33 due to alcohol. I have taken a couple of breaks from drinking; one was a year, then another for six months.
Now I really want to "quit" for forever, and it's scary to say that word. After 30 yrs. it had become such a part of my life, that it's like learning to do things all over again, a new way.
Congratulations on 2 months of sobriety! I'm about 7 days into it, and I'm feeling at the same time both elated and scared. I am taking baby steps at living a sober life. Wow, the prospect of even watching a movie without drinking is still too much for me right now. There are triggers all around me.....
This site is such a lifesaver, I've already learned some things to give me hope and tips to strengthen my resolve.....what a journey, eh?
best of luck,
Heartfan
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Great to meet you, 2blackkittehs.
I drank for about 30 yrs. too - & now have 5+ yrs. sober. After joining SR I found the courage and hope I had lacked before. Knowing I wasn't alone made all the difference to me, since I had no one in my life who understood addiction. I know you'll enjoy being part of the family here.
Congratulations on your 2 months sober!
I drank for about 30 yrs. too - & now have 5+ yrs. sober. After joining SR I found the courage and hope I had lacked before. Knowing I wasn't alone made all the difference to me, since I had no one in my life who understood addiction. I know you'll enjoy being part of the family here.
Congratulations on your 2 months sober!
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