iwanthealth

other people trying to help HAS NOT been working out.

i think i need to be helping someone else.

i just want to help someone else.

sooverthis

I don't understand what your trying to say.
Why hasn't it been working out? and what would you like to help someone with?

iwanthealth

i just think forgetting about myself and having to help someone else may work better.

other people helping me seems to keep failing. they mean well, but it's too easy to see their mistakes. i don't think anyone should try to help me anymore, but i would like to help someone else. if this makes any sense...

it would help me to help someone.

Dee74

helping others can definitely help - so long as you don;t lose sight of your own issues, iwanthealth.

Have you tried a recovery group?

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LadyinBC

some people are so against going, however, this is a great place to share your story to help others.

iwanthealth

i am not looking to help others with stories anymore. i just need to be there for someone.

you don't have to respond, i know this is difficult situation.

sugarbear1

Are you sober?

jstar

I understand your need to want to help others to get out of your own head...it is difficult however to give away to others what you don't believe you have within. Now I don't know what exactly your story is & I know it does help me to stay sober by helping another alcoholic, but if I don't have my own recovery going, it's really hard for me to be an example to someone else.

People tell me that you gotta have your order of priorities in recovery (this is just what has been suggested to me): 1) God 2) my own recovery 3) my family & everyone else.

Helping others does help us to stay sober, but we have to keep up our side too

sugarbear1

Start staying stopped and any time you feel low, come in here and write to someone on the forums. I'm sure you will be helpful to another, but you also need to help yourself!

Hugs,

LadyinBC

This journey is not easy for any of us. I am so sorry that you are struggling I wish there was something I could do.

Threshold

Your being here and being honest, like you are in this post, helps me. I get that you want more, to help in a more concrete and perhaps direct way, and encourage you to seek that, but I do want you to know that your being here truly IS helping many many people.

There are a bizillion ways to help others in our lives. And I think it's good for us to not lose sight of the myriad ways we do that, even as we seek a more obvious way.

Following the rules of the road, showing up to work and doing our job (pretty much any job somehow is helping another get something they want or need), I mean, no matter how disconnected we feel, most of us are connected in many many ways. Every bill we pay helps pay for systems that many people benefit from.

Just thought I'd throw in that perspective

Anna

I hope you find something that works for you.

flutter

I'm not trying to be flippant, but what is it you feel you're in a position to help people with? There's a million volunteer opportunities out there in all sorts of areas that might interest you.