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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Australia
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Sounds like a great idea Jalier. Good to have you here, and that you feel better soon.
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Athens, Georgia
Posts: 962
Hello Jalier,
This is a good place to be. It has been a life-saver for me. I am sure we all look forward to hearing from you often. You can do this. The Sober Recovery website will help.
Also check out the chat room, if you get feeling squirrelly.
RDBplus3
This is a good place to be. It has been a life-saver for me. I am sure we all look forward to hearing from you often. You can do this. The Sober Recovery website will help.
Also check out the chat room, if you get feeling squirrelly.
RDBplus3
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Athens, Georgia
Posts: 962
Jalier, what have you tried in the past? Any methods such as AA, Christian counseling, therapy, rehab houses, grit-your-teeth white-knuckling?
What happened if you started and then 'failed'? Are you getting sober because you want to or know you need to? Or is it an ultimatum from someone else? Give us some background.
What happened if you started and then 'failed'? Are you getting sober because you want to or know you need to? Or is it an ultimatum from someone else? Give us some background.
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Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
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Welcome jalier. We're so glad you joined us. Many of us have been in this same situation, so we understand how you're feeling.
You ask why you can't get it - but it sounds like you are getting it. You're starting treatment Monday. I struggled for many years with it, and always figured I could use willpower to control how much I drank. Once I gave up the idea that I could have 'one or two' I made it out of hell. Realizing that we can't touch the stuff is what is needed. Sometimes it takes awhile. It sounds like you're tired of the rollercoaster - this can be the end of that old, sick life. Never give up trying - you can do this.
You ask why you can't get it - but it sounds like you are getting it. You're starting treatment Monday. I struggled for many years with it, and always figured I could use willpower to control how much I drank. Once I gave up the idea that I could have 'one or two' I made it out of hell. Realizing that we can't touch the stuff is what is needed. Sometimes it takes awhile. It sounds like you're tired of the rollercoaster - this can be the end of that old, sick life. Never give up trying - you can do this.
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Join Date: Mar 2008
Location: SF Bay area, CA
Posts: 99,760
What Hevyn said was true: we have to really accept we can never have just one. A very wise woman on this site used to say "you have to want to be sober more than you want to drink" (or whatever your addiction is). Give yourself another chance. Work on changing yourself in treatment. It is possible to live clean and sober, but it takes work. Remember, you CAN do this.
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Posts: 625
Originally Posted by jalier 
...oh,i am a crack addict by the way..
You want hope? I have been clean for twenty years now. I am back up to 250 lbs. I have written a book and am under contract from my publisher for two more. I have completed a marathon under my own power. More important than all that - my father respects me, my children look up to me, and my wife loves me.
You can do this. I am no stronger than anyone, nor am I weaker... if I can do it, so can you.
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