Can an active alcoholic be happy - is there such a thing?
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There is the illusion of happiness when they are blotto. I mean who wouldn't be happy. The real world doesn't exsist. Honestly, in my experience, NO.They are miserable. When you need to self medicate to deal with life,or escape it. I don't believe you are a happy camper.
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The reason I ask is that it occurred to me that AH always made a big deal of how 'happy' he was and I because of all that was going on around me was so unhappy and now I am wondering if it was a case of me - well having happiness drained out of me for want of a better phrase. When AH was drinking and 'happy' he would suddenly lay into me -I was over on the A side of this forum for the first time ever I saw a post that resonated with me ...and gave me some idea why this kept happening
"..I too have destroyed or severely damaged the trust in many relationships because of what I said/did when I was drunk. My therapist once said that many drunks and druggies tend to be highly perceptive and often turn to drink or drug to deaden those feelings. The downside of that whole thing is that when we drink and let loose on someone, those very same perceptive abilities allow us to cut someone down to the core in record time. I used to say the meanest stuff I could think of (and there was often a lot) to people when I was drunk and, when I could remember it, watch with sick pleasure the fascination of them recoiling because I had hit a "home run."
When I was sober I could barely live with myself because I go the opposite way as a sober person---always trying to build people up, even at the expense of myself. "
Some kind of happiness!
"..I too have destroyed or severely damaged the trust in many relationships because of what I said/did when I was drunk. My therapist once said that many drunks and druggies tend to be highly perceptive and often turn to drink or drug to deaden those feelings. The downside of that whole thing is that when we drink and let loose on someone, those very same perceptive abilities allow us to cut someone down to the core in record time. I used to say the meanest stuff I could think of (and there was often a lot) to people when I was drunk and, when I could remember it, watch with sick pleasure the fascination of them recoiling because I had hit a "home run."
When I was sober I could barely live with myself because I go the opposite way as a sober person---always trying to build people up, even at the expense of myself. "
Some kind of happiness!
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I doubt it.
Imo happiness is remembering what you did or said the next day.
Its not getting intoxicated and going to jail nor is it feeling hungover the next day or forgetting/ruining special occasions where one would have real bliss with loved ones nor is it having to manage your life around a substance instead of just living and it for sure doesnt involve a buffet of emotions because one is tipsy or drunk.
I cant see how anyone would find happiness in that.
If they are happy its because of a small measure of little moments or chemical dependancy that their brain triggers with endorphins rather than truly happy.
Imo happiness is remembering what you did or said the next day.
Its not getting intoxicated and going to jail nor is it feeling hungover the next day or forgetting/ruining special occasions where one would have real bliss with loved ones nor is it having to manage your life around a substance instead of just living and it for sure doesnt involve a buffet of emotions because one is tipsy or drunk.
I cant see how anyone would find happiness in that.
If they are happy its because of a small measure of little moments or chemical dependancy that their brain triggers with endorphins rather than truly happy.
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