What if?
A simple guy making his way
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What if?
I say it seldom. I am not a what if kinda guy.
What if I never drank? Better yet what if I could drink normal? What if one meant one and not one hundred! Hmmmmm.
Those that invest time in what ifs should stop for a moment.
I live a rather burden free life in that regard. The variables to it all are incalculable. Yet we say it.
What if?
What if I was sober today? I am.
What if I was kind to myself? I am.
What if I was forgiving of my past? I am.
Maybe I need to rethink this. The what ifs are not all that bad.
What if I never drank? Better yet what if I could drink normal? What if one meant one and not one hundred! Hmmmmm.
Those that invest time in what ifs should stop for a moment.
I live a rather burden free life in that regard. The variables to it all are incalculable. Yet we say it.
What if?
What if I was sober today? I am.
What if I was kind to myself? I am.
What if I was forgiving of my past? I am.
Maybe I need to rethink this. The what ifs are not all that bad.
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
I can't dwell on the what ifs anymore because
I can't change the past. What is is what was
and that's it.
Of course when I use to reflect back on
things in my past, i use to hurt with emotional
pain and would drink over them. Sure it hurts
to think about a sick parent that would inflict
physical and verbal abuse on me as a little child
and just shake my head and wonder how in the
world or why in the world would any adult hurt
and innocent child. Someone who couldnt and
wouldnt fight back because of so much fear instill
in them.
What if i stayed strong enough to follow thru with
my intention to enter the school councilors office
and tell them about the abuse.
So many what ifs back in the day and drank over
them.
Today, i don't try to figure out other peoples
motives, thoughts and actions when they are out
of my control. The only control I have today is
to stay sober and live life on life's terms.
Just keeping life simple.
I can't change the past. What is is what was
and that's it.
Of course when I use to reflect back on
things in my past, i use to hurt with emotional
pain and would drink over them. Sure it hurts
to think about a sick parent that would inflict
physical and verbal abuse on me as a little child
and just shake my head and wonder how in the
world or why in the world would any adult hurt
and innocent child. Someone who couldnt and
wouldnt fight back because of so much fear instill
in them.
What if i stayed strong enough to follow thru with
my intention to enter the school councilors office
and tell them about the abuse.
So many what ifs back in the day and drank over
them.
Today, i don't try to figure out other peoples
motives, thoughts and actions when they are out
of my control. The only control I have today is
to stay sober and live life on life's terms.
Just keeping life simple.
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A huge part of my new life is trying as hard as I can to live in the present. Not the past, not the future, I have no control over either.. best I can do is make every next right choice and hope it sums up to a great life.
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Originally Posted by flutter 
A huge part of my new life is trying as hard as I can to live in the present. Not the past, not the future, I have no control over either.. best I can do is make every next right choice and hope it sums up to a great life.
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I am all about the present moment...but I have also always played around with "what ifs", always even as a child...What if I could fly? What if I could talk to animals? It was always fun for me to ponder that kind of stuff.
I agree with you Weas...the what ifs haven't always been a bad thing for me either. Some of the most important questions I ever asked were framed this way.
What if I stop believing I am incapable and start believing I am capable?
What if the bad things I think about myself are lies?
What if I really can be the person I want to be?
I agree with you Weas...the what ifs haven't always been a bad thing for me either. Some of the most important questions I ever asked were framed this way.
What if I stop believing I am incapable and start believing I am capable?
What if the bad things I think about myself are lies?
What if I really can be the person I want to be?
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Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Houston, Tx
Posts: 278
This is an especially impactful thread for me. I'm 9 days in... Weekends are tough because my mind has time to wander... And the what-ifs come flooding into my mind. I think last night I actually posted that I want a time machine. Lol... Right...
I'm making an earnest effort to recognize this thought patten & the associated emotion so I can tell myself... This is how you feel in this moment... And this moment will pass.
Focusing on the future is difficult with regret.
I'm making an earnest effort to recognize this thought patten & the associated emotion so I can tell myself... This is how you feel in this moment... And this moment will pass.
Focusing on the future is difficult with regret.
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Join Date: Sep 2011
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Originally Posted by soberlicious
I am all about the present moment...but I have also always played around with "what ifs", always even as a child...What if I could fly? What if I could talk to animals? It was always fun for me to ponder that kind of stuff.
I agree with you Weas...the what ifs haven't always been a bad thing for me either. Some of the most important questions I ever asked were framed this way.
What if I stop believing I am incapable and start believing I am capable?
What if the bad things I think about myself are lies?
What if I really can be the person I want to be?
I agree with you Weas...the what ifs haven't always been a bad thing for me either. Some of the most important questions I ever asked were framed this way.
What if I stop believing I am incapable and start believing I am capable?
What if the bad things I think about myself are lies?
What if I really can be the person I want to be?
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Gulf Coast, Florida USA
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Originally Posted by Weasel1966
I say it seldom. I am not a what if kinda guy.
What if I never drank? Better yet what if I could drink normal? What if one meant one and not one hundred! Hmmmmm.
Those that invest time in what ifs should stop for a moment.
I live a rather burden free life in that regard. The variables to it all are incalculable. Yet we say it.
What if?
What if I was sober today? I am.
What if I was kind to myself? I am.
What if I was forgiving of my past? I am.
Maybe I need to rethink this. The what ifs are not all that bad.
What if I never drank? Better yet what if I could drink normal? What if one meant one and not one hundred! Hmmmmm.
Those that invest time in what ifs should stop for a moment.
I live a rather burden free life in that regard. The variables to it all are incalculable. Yet we say it.
What if?
What if I was sober today? I am.
What if I was kind to myself? I am.
What if I was forgiving of my past? I am.
Maybe I need to rethink this. The what ifs are not all that bad.
Without it I probably would still be arrogant thinking I know everything, that no one should tell me how to run my life. My priorities would be on material success and worldly titles.
I never would have found out that I am just not that important or unique , That I don't have to fix the world, that the world doesn't revolve around deek.
I never would have found out that the peace I have today is worth so much more than all the things I was chasing in my addictions.
All the things I gave away to my addiction, the house, the boat, the hot truck, the stuff.
Oh Lord what if I was never an alcoholic? I don't even want to know.
Amen To That
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