4 months sober and still struggling
4 months sober and still struggling
I go to meetings almost everyday. I have a sponsor and am working the steps. About 3 weeks ago my boyfriend and I broke up and he moved out. I have never been alone! I'm having a really hard time with it. Facing my fears and working through them. Having thoughts of using still. Being alone with myself is hard for me.
Hi lisa
be alone and sober was hard for me too - but I'm glad I stuck with it - I really learned a lot about myself and I learned to be comfortable in my own company - I'd never had that in 20 years drinking.
Being alone doesn't mean you have to be a hermit tho
You'll find lots of friends here, lot of support, and lots of ideas about where to find more friends and social outlets too - welcome!
D
be alone and sober was hard for me too - but I'm glad I stuck with it - I really learned a lot about myself and I learned to be comfortable in my own company - I'd never had that in 20 years drinking.
Being alone doesn't mean you have to be a hermit tho
You'll find lots of friends here, lot of support, and lots of ideas about where to find more friends and social outlets too - welcome!
D
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Hey lisa,
Sounds like you are working very hard on yourself. A break up can definitely bring up a lot of emotions but hang in there. My fave quote "this too shall pass" when I am going thru tough times. And if you have never been alone, here's your chance to focus solely on yourself and you're doing it sober. That's admirable
Sounds like you are working very hard on yourself. A break up can definitely bring up a lot of emotions but hang in there. My fave quote "this too shall pass" when I am going thru tough times. And if you have never been alone, here's your chance to focus solely on yourself and you're doing it sober. That's admirable
Lisa,
I am going on 4 months sober as well (this time). I am married with kids and I created a self imposed lonliness when I drank. I have had to learn how to deal with emotions, stress, anger, anxiety, etc..., and it been quite the journey. But it is worth it.
Your path has changed but that does not mean you will not meet people with similar interest that are sober. I have family and friends that drink, but I do know several who do not, so it is possible. Ending a relationship I'm sure will create the ultimate test to your sobriety, but keep at it. Four months is a big deal, be ashame to start all over again.
Take Care,
Toss
I am going on 4 months sober as well (this time). I am married with kids and I created a self imposed lonliness when I drank. I have had to learn how to deal with emotions, stress, anger, anxiety, etc..., and it been quite the journey. But it is worth it.
Your path has changed but that does not mean you will not meet people with similar interest that are sober. I have family and friends that drink, but I do know several who do not, so it is possible. Ending a relationship I'm sure will create the ultimate test to your sobriety, but keep at it. Four months is a big deal, be ashame to start all over again.
Take Care,
Toss
Lisapjrn, 4 months sober and still struggling? You are FANTASTIC. Congratulations. 2 years 7 months sober and still struggling, but not as much as at 4 months. You'll make it, rootin for ya.
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Hi,
Reading really helps me -- especially getting lost in fiction.
There isn't much worth watching on TV, so now, I am the way with books that I used to be with wine. Where I live, we can't buy alcohol on Sundays, so I would make sure to get enough for Sunday the day before. Heaven forbid that I would have to make it through a Sunday without it.
Now, if nighttime or the weekend arrives, I make sure I have a good book handy. It really does help pass the time until that drug -- sleepiness -- kicks in.
Good luck!
Reading really helps me -- especially getting lost in fiction.
There isn't much worth watching on TV, so now, I am the way with books that I used to be with wine. Where I live, we can't buy alcohol on Sundays, so I would make sure to get enough for Sunday the day before. Heaven forbid that I would have to make it through a Sunday without it.
Now, if nighttime or the weekend arrives, I make sure I have a good book handy. It really does help pass the time until that drug -- sleepiness -- kicks in.
Good luck!
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