Patsy22

Would a text message giving someone an ultimatum cause seizures in a person with acute liver failure?

Taking5

I'm no Dr., but I'm real sure it won't. If that person had a seizure - a big if - it was likely because of acute alcohol withdrawal.

LexieCat

Text messages don't cause any health conditions. Seizures are not uncommon with alcoholism, particularly with acute withdrawal. That's why medically supervised detox is always recommended.

Patsy22

He had been in hospital under supervised detox but discharged himself and took a long coach journey to stay with his parents. The new GP didn't know his history so referred him to outpatients where he was restarting tests when this happened. His family disowned me and I wonder if it is partly because he was taken ill with seizures shortly after we had talked on the phone and then I sent him a text to ask him to come home. He was already very ill with ascites and mild encepathopathy. He stayed in hospital for a further 2.5 months before he died and was often lucid and loving when I visited him but I would hate to think it was me who started this off.

LexieCat

His family is grieving and they are blaming you without cause. It isn't right, but people will do hurtful things at times. You don't have to take it to heart or believe it. Their emotions are not your reality.

Alcoholism is a deadly disease. You didn't cause it, and you didn't cause any of the complications that naturally follow from it.

Have you looked into grief counseling for yourself?

Hugs,

Patsy22

I have been having counselling as I am recovering from cancer and the counsellor has been helpful about his family's behaviour as this has been going on for some time. They are still trying to remove every trace of me from his life and made it clear I couldn't go to his funeral last week. My counselling is now finished and I am on a 2 month waiting list for specialist bereavement counselling. It has me in bits that I am not sure now whether he still loved me when he died although I was there.

dollydo

You didn't have anything to do with his seizures, his parents are grieving and do not want to accept the truth about him. This is not uncommon behavior.

LexieCat

I'm sure he loved you the best he was able to. I'm sure it was comforting for him at the end to have you there. His family can't take that away from you, whatever they do with his possessions, and however they treat you. That was between you and him.

If I were you, during this fragile time, I would avoid any contact with his family and expect nothing from them.

Patsy22

Aside from their threats that I still have items of his I doubt I will hear from then ever again, which is fine by me.

Recovering2

Text, phone, emails....do NOT cause seizures in an A. You didnt Cause it, couldn't Cure it, couldn't Control it. It was his own failing health that caused his seizures. Advanced alcoholism causes horrible physical consequences, including seizures. Let that go, you had nothing whatsoever to do with the seizure.

I'm sorry things turned out this way. He is finally at peace. His family sounds like they are still in denial, and will look to blame anyone they can for their loss. Just keep a distance from them, and focus on your own healing from this. Big Hugs.....