LoveMeNow

Have you ever noticed when we stop asking all the "whys" - the real shift is made. When we stop asking why, there is a certain peace that comes with it. Acceptance is within our reach or has already been reached.

I would always think back and compare the past and the present and wonder WHY. Was the past real or just one big manipulation, one big illusion?? Did he really change?? Why did I not see or understand sooner? Why did this happen? I even asked God over and over WHY God, oh Why!!

I remember crying in my bed and praying this was all one big nightmare that I would wake up from.

Well, I am awake. It is real. I have finally stopped asking why. It just is what it is. I can finally accept that and it is very freeing.

Ilovemysonjj

Thank you for the illumination on acceptance. I totally understand. The day that I realized that YES my son is a heroin addict and that is just that. It made the shift for me from feeling sorry for ME and MY life and really understanding how I was making it about ME instead of the fact that he is doing what he is doing. It also has helped me tremendously in avoiding the guilt trip that I could easily lay on my son for his actions. Needless to say, the love didn't change for me, but my views and ability to move on with MY life definitely changed.
Hugs,
TT

crazybabie

I did notice that LMN, took me a long time seeing I am a very analytical person how freeing it can be once we stop asking WHY.

Chino

I read this on a church sign right when I needed it:

"Why" is one letter short of "whyne"

zoso77

For me, the answer to every question regarding my AXGF is two fold:

1) because she's an addict
2) because she's a Borderline

And I haven't lost sleep about it since.

ZoSo

CharlieNoogan

Hmmm.... That church needs to check again.