My Boyfriend Quit Drinking But Started Smoking More Weed... I'm Sad and Hurt.
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My Boyfriend Quit Drinking But Started Smoking More Weed... I'm Sad and Hurt.
My Boyfriend Quit Drinking and I was so proud of him I know without a doubt it took lots of courage and strength.
However it did not improve our relationship... Once he quit drinking he started using huge amounts of marijuana...
I know everyone has a different opinion on this subject...
However He was spending lots of money on this drug and it was holding us back financially, every-time he would have extra money instead of putting it aside for food, or etc he would spend it on marijuana, not thinking about me or his child or anyone else's needed but his own. Every-day he was planning or plotting how he could come up with the money to buy a joint..
He only works 6 months out of the year and the place where he is employed does not drug test so after the job was over he would only do odd jobs...
He will not quit using long enough to pass a drug test to get a regular job and of course he has a felony on his record for D.U.I.'s and that also holds him back but he will not make a effort to try and get it removed.
So I decided that I could not live this way any longer and I left again....
And he was constantly asking me for 5.00 here 10.00 there and so fourth and so on.... So I really don't know how much he truly loved me or if he was simply using me this whole entire time...
I'm sorry for going on and on but I really could use a friendly word right now.
Some of my very close personal friends called him a "looser" and even though deep down I know it's true, I could not help that I loved him..
I'm trying so hard to move on.
Thanks Everyone for listening.
However it did not improve our relationship... Once he quit drinking he started using huge amounts of marijuana...
I know everyone has a different opinion on this subject...
However He was spending lots of money on this drug and it was holding us back financially, every-time he would have extra money instead of putting it aside for food, or etc he would spend it on marijuana, not thinking about me or his child or anyone else's needed but his own. Every-day he was planning or plotting how he could come up with the money to buy a joint..
He only works 6 months out of the year and the place where he is employed does not drug test so after the job was over he would only do odd jobs...
He will not quit using long enough to pass a drug test to get a regular job and of course he has a felony on his record for D.U.I.'s and that also holds him back but he will not make a effort to try and get it removed.
So I decided that I could not live this way any longer and I left again....
And he was constantly asking me for 5.00 here 10.00 there and so fourth and so on.... So I really don't know how much he truly loved me or if he was simply using me this whole entire time...
I'm sorry for going on and on but I really could use a friendly word right now.
Some of my very close personal friends called him a "looser" and even though deep down I know it's true, I could not help that I loved him..
I'm trying so hard to move on.
Thanks Everyone for listening.
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Sounds like you made a wise choice for you and your child by leaving. Good for you.
He is obviously still an addict, and traded one drug for another. That's too bad, but not surprising.
Stick around and read as much as you can here, you'll learn a lot.
Stay strong and don't give in to the BS.
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He is obviously still an addict, and traded one drug for another. That's too bad, but not surprising.
Stick around and read as much as you can here, you'll learn a lot.
Stay strong and don't give in to the BS.
C-OH Dad
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So sorry- My AH always traded one thing for the other . He would give up weed and crank up the drinking or vice versa and then had the porn addiction thing in the mix. I loved my AH too a lot and still do- I just could not picture that being a part of my life anymore - you and I deserve someone who helps us and brings something to the table like we do - not someone who just brings us down. IMHO when it comes to addictions - for me love is not enough . Please know there are many people here who are so helpful and you can a learn a lot from. Hugs-
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