FarawayFromCars

I asked my Dad if he would like to get together this weekend with me and my in-laws to celebrate my birthday. I told him that ASis was not invited given her recent drunk behavior (calling and leaving drunk messages and sending drunk emails) and past behaviors (showing up drunk to my birthday). Dad said that he couldn't exclude ASis from family gatherings. So I told him that I wasn't willing to celebrate another birthday with drunk ASis or her alcoholism, and therefore we'd have to make plans to get together another time. I am glad that I stuck to my boundaries, but I feel sad that my Dad would choose the drunk over this one request on my own birthday.

LexieCat

You did the right thing.

Yeah, I can understand your sadness, but you can do something special just with your Dad and you one day soon, and you can plan to have a fabulous birthday anyway.

HopefulmomtoD

I don't get it and I'm sorry your Dad made that decision. I hope you have a nice birthday anyway. ;- )

dollydo

I am sorry, some things just don't make any sense, although, I will say that parents do play favorites, most will deny it, however, it is what it is.

Enjoy your birthday, and yes, you did the right thing.

Rosiepetal

I hope you have a fantastic birthday regardless & know that you stuck to your boundaries & did the right thing.
Relax & enjoy without all the drama.

redatlanta

Sometimes people have to process things. It may take awhile for dad to get it - I know this is painful but by setting and sticking to your boundaries Dad may finally see the light - or not.

Sorry you are hurting right now and I hope you plan a wonderful day for yourself!