Understanding11

i went out with an alcoholic for 18 monthes.
He said he was seperated, he was not!
I fell in love, and the year and a half was
A roller coaster. He said wonderful things,
Also sometimes abusive emotionally,
after the 18 monthes he disappeared went
To live with his wife, who had a drinking problem
Too!!! then went to couselling, and he joinef
AA.
was a year, and a mutul friend told me he was
Asking about me, wanted to know how I was and
What i was doing,.
Went to see him, to give support for joining AA
he was living seperate from his wife snd there
House is for sale now!
He came on to me and walked me to his
Bedroom, after a bit he said he could not do this,
Said mean things to me and left the room.
He apologised, and we talked. He said he could not
Get involved with anyone right now!!
He said he stopped himself when he saw his
Metal of sobriety,
Why did he not stop himself before, doing
This to me, i thought he wanted me, i am
Still in love with him, very confused!

Understanding11

i feel he is afraid, i want him to open up,
why did he do this to me??

dollydo

He is married, he is an alcoholic, he is an abuser and a liar. He did you a favor, there are way too many single, non-alcoholic good men out there, to waste your time on this loser. Move forward with your life and be thankful that he is no longer in your life.

Take some time to read the stickeys at the top of this forum and cynical one's blogs, lots of helpful information at your fingertips.

AlcoholicLove

Run as fast and as far away from him as you can.
That's the best advice I can give you.

thislonelygirl

I feel really sad for you because one you either truly feel entitled and two because you feel betrayed.
The true betrayal is one he made with his wife and with himself.
Im not judging you at all. I fully understand the pain and hurt and loving someone just to get dragged along
But if you truly care for him like you say then allow him to make the best decision for his sobriety and for himself as far as making amends.

Recovering2

He is an Alcoholic, and he is Married. You knew that. He was sometimes emotionally abusive to you. You knew that. First opportunity you're ready to be back in his arms.

The question isn't how can he do that to you...the question is how can you do that to yourself? You're not going to get any better than this with this man. When people show you who they are....believe them.