Don't know where/down to start?
Member
Thread Starter
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Beijing, China
Posts: 23
Don't know where/down to start?
Hi guys, I'd appreciate any advice you have,
I've always enjoyed a drink far more than the average person, whilke I dont drink every day and I'm not physically addicted, I know I have no way of controlling myself with alcohol and I've decided I need to stop altogether.
First off, any tips? I have quit before for like a week, at most 2, but what makes people able to go the distance?
Also, where I'm from binge drinking is just a social norm (i moved abroad and am now surrounded by people that don't feel that way, which made me wake up), how can I enjoy myself without it? I have my own hobbies, and when i go out with friends they'll just have a few, but for me there's no such thing as a few...Is it even possible to have fun without drinking?
Also, I'm sure if you've ever suffered from a drinking problem you'll know the shame factor, talking s***, falling over, doing all sorts of embarassing things, I look back and I cringe, despise the things I've done. While I can't go back and change it, does the constant sense of shame ever go away?
Any comments appreciated!
I've always enjoyed a drink far more than the average person, whilke I dont drink every day and I'm not physically addicted, I know I have no way of controlling myself with alcohol and I've decided I need to stop altogether.
First off, any tips? I have quit before for like a week, at most 2, but what makes people able to go the distance?
Also, where I'm from binge drinking is just a social norm (i moved abroad and am now surrounded by people that don't feel that way, which made me wake up), how can I enjoy myself without it? I have my own hobbies, and when i go out with friends they'll just have a few, but for me there's no such thing as a few...Is it even possible to have fun without drinking?
Also, I'm sure if you've ever suffered from a drinking problem you'll know the shame factor, talking s***, falling over, doing all sorts of embarassing things, I look back and I cringe, despise the things I've done. While I can't go back and change it, does the constant sense of shame ever go away?
Any comments appreciated!
Hello Hari,
1. I have fun without drinking, but in different ways and different places (for example, bars are no fun when are sober).
2. From what I have been told, if that sense of shame goes away, you're likely to get into trouble with drinking again.
Welcome to SR! Check in often!
1. I have fun without drinking, but in different ways and different places (for example, bars are no fun when are sober).
2. From what I have been told, if that sense of shame goes away, you're likely to get into trouble with drinking again.
Welcome to SR! Check in often!
Hi Haribo,
I don't have an 'off' switch either when it comes to drinking. It was fun when I was younger because it seemed normal, but I'm in my mid-thirties now and being inappropriately drunk at all functions where alcohol is present has had terrible repercussions for me socially and professionally. I still cringe at some of the things I did and there are many people/places that won't welcome me back. I've lost a lot of sleep over my shame but I now realize I must move on. I have accepted my past and I'm ready for new memories that I will cherish instead of abhor. So to answer your question, the shame and guilt does subside with time. I think most alcoholics have to come to terms with their past before they can be happy and optimistic for the future.
I don't have an 'off' switch either when it comes to drinking. It was fun when I was younger because it seemed normal, but I'm in my mid-thirties now and being inappropriately drunk at all functions where alcohol is present has had terrible repercussions for me socially and professionally. I still cringe at some of the things I did and there are many people/places that won't welcome me back. I've lost a lot of sleep over my shame but I now realize I must move on. I have accepted my past and I'm ready for new memories that I will cherish instead of abhor. So to answer your question, the shame and guilt does subside with time. I think most alcoholics have to come to terms with their past before they can be happy and optimistic for the future.
Welcome. For me, alcohol stopped working. By that, it meant that the ostensibly *fun* things about alcohol ceased to be fun anymore. It also meant that I found myself here. There is a reason that we reach out and admit that it our use is bigger than we are, and it is hurting us. You are reaching out here, so that says something.
I just recently hit 30 days, although I have had many day 1s. I attribute my sobriety now to reaching out to a few trusted friends, starting AA, and holding myself accountable.
It might be hard to believe, but I am having a hell of a lot more fun now. Really. Stay with us, and keep us posted.
I just recently hit 30 days, although I have had many day 1s. I attribute my sobriety now to reaching out to a few trusted friends, starting AA, and holding myself accountable.
It might be hard to believe, but I am having a hell of a lot more fun now. Really. Stay with us, and keep us posted.
Currently Active Users Viewing this Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)