pattyG

I have been no contact for a week, except brief emails. Sat nite i got a barrage of emails asking to see the kids and how horrible I am for not letting her. I didnt respond after the first one where i said I was following my legal counsels advice...no contact. I came out of the santuary at church and she walked up to me saying she was going to see the kids. I told her she wasnt and when she tried to ignore my statement I asked her if I really needed to call yhe police. She was near tears, called me some names and left. I did call the police and filed a report. It was hard. In our few minute conversation, I told her she chose this path. She said it didn't need to be like this, basically I could agree to her terms of joint custody. I told her there was no way I was giving up any of my parental rights, now was I jepordizing them by letting her see the kids. She looked bloated and smelled of alcohol.

jessiec

So sad.

PohsFriend

How sad for her. I'm glad you stood your ground and documented things. It's important that she understands that you and the kids are part of the sober life and that of she gives up sobriety she gives you up.

Maybe that will be what makes the drinking more painful than sobriety, maybe not... But that's for her to work out.

I am very sad for her. What a terrible shame.

LexieCat

Nicely done--you handled that well.

Sorry it had to be handled at all, of course, but we don't get to choose what other people do, just our own responses.

grandma12

Way to stand up for yourself and your kids.

CarrieTX

I can only imagine how hard that was for you to experience and respond to, but congratulations for taking care of your children and yourself rather than trying to care take her!