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Old 01-22-2013, 08:51 PM
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Where are all the younger sober people at? (29 and under)

I'm 24 and have been sober for almost 2 months. I was wondering where all the younger crowd was and how long you've been sober. Feel free to add more to this as well such as why you decided to quit, how hard/easy its been, or anything else you'd want to share
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i wish my son who is 25 will be here as you are, keep strong,
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Ill start by saying that some days have been easier than others and that stopping drinking was something I had been thinking about for a long while before actually doing it. I decided to quit because I started to see more isolation from others while drinking (drinking by myself) and because life started seeming like it was passing me by. I also quit because I wanted to be more sociable with others. Talking to new people hasn't really happened much but I am more talkative with those I've known for years, at least when they're not drinking. Relating with drunk people isn't that easy when im not drinking!

I look forward to reading the posts here.
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i wish my son who is 25 will be here as you are, keep strong,
Maybe he will be someday, I never thought ID be here at 24 years old. You stay strong too.
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I'm a bit older, but I still think, at 33, there aren't that many sober people around me, either. Almost all of my friends drink on a regular basis, and I've very recently decided to quit. I'm not sure how it will be received but I'm hopeful that it won't be a big deal to them. I'm still single, so that's another factor that makes it difficult. Most social outlets for singles involve alcohol. I'd love to hear how you progress with your journey. Good luck!
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Old 01-22-2013, 09:39 PM
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Single people looking for other single people usually does involve a club or house party with alcohol. Maybe there's other ways or places to meet people that don't involve alcohol but us being accustomed to the drinking crowd we don't really know where to look other than those kinds of places? I've never been much on the club or house party scene even when I was drinking but somehow I always got dragged to these enviornments by friends.

I noticed me not drinking was a big deal for about a month, now they've kind of excepted it. I just tell em I'm on the wagon trail for a while. Would love to say it'll be forever but I don't want to set myself up for failure. When they ask how long I'm riding this so called "wagon" I just tell em I'm not sure. Good luck to you and your journey as well.
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Old 01-22-2013, 11:30 PM
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My service sponsor lived near a college town so we would see quite a few people in your age group. In fact, my last sponsor was in her mid 20s although I am nearly twice her age. Selfish woman that she was, she completed her doctorate and is now teaching English in Asia. Hence why she is my former sponsor lol

Many of people who attended these groups would discuss their sober plans at the meeting after the meeting. Often invitations were given out to other members. Is a young person's meeting an option for you? ;Even if its not listed as such, your Central Office may know what meetings are popular with your age group.

We also have a great sober band in town, and when they come out to play young people often attend these functions whether it be the Alano Club or a Motorcycle blessing.
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I would like to try to attend somethig or the younger crowd, though I'm not sure if we have something like that. We do have something called an alano club out here and its a sober club that I went to years ago when I wasn't sober LOL. My brother in-law that passed away back in 07, God rest his soul, used to attend there due to court orders and such. I didn't know they had other alano clubs elsewhere I just thought it was the name of this particular club/food joint here in town. Are they an organization or something? I'm located upstate Cali and I see your from so cal so maybe its a Cali based organization?
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As a 20 year old University student, i'm somewhat of an enigma. Sober nearly 2 weeks, but almost 1 month if you discount one minor relapse. Compared to what I was drinking, i'm on fine form.

I definitely think it can be harder for us younger ones. Especially in britain, we have a culture which revolves around drinking. Every time my friends socialise involves alcohol. I once suggested going Ice Skating and almost got laughed out the house!

I live in a flat in which the neighbours seem to be 'on the lash' every night, coming home at 4am etc waking everyone up. As a student, it's very hard to stay away from the booze. As i've said, I think young culture today, especially in Britain, revolves around trying to get as pissed as possible, and congratulating oneself on the resulting drunken acts.
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i just turned 30, hope i can post!
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Old 01-23-2013, 06:15 AM
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I'm 29 and just glad you still consider me young I'm working on my 20th day. I feel great and so far I've only had a few strong cravings. The aversion to how the alcohol made me feel after I drank is still strong, and I think that keeps me sober. However, I'm not foolish enough to think I have this thing under control. I've read too many stories here on SR and seen too many episodes of Intervention to think I'm that strong after less than 3 weeks. I will keep coming here daily because it keeps my head straight helps me to not be complacent about my sobriety.
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Old 01-23-2013, 07:20 AM
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I'm 27. My youngest sponsee sister in AA is only 13. There are way more sober young people than one might think.
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Old 01-23-2013, 07:28 AM
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i just turned 30, hope i can post!
I don't know Lion, you may be catching up to us old folks!! Darn 42!!!
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Old 01-23-2013, 07:31 AM
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You are smart to stop now. When I first moved to San Diego I joined Team in Training and signed up to run the Rock and Roll Marathon, I had never run in my life except during basketball in high school, and possibly for a good shoe sale.

It was a great way to meet people and to raise money for a good cause. I know they have lots of groups all over Cali. Maybe something like that would be a good way to meet people, it is hard to drink and get up for a long run the next day!!
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Old 01-23-2013, 07:33 AM
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Im 29. I got sober at 25. At the time I couldnt imagine living the rest of my life without booze. The 20's are supposed to be party years right?
The party was over for me. Drinking had become a necessity and was no longer a luxury.
Ive come to see how blessed I am to get sober young. Wouldnt trade it for the world!
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I'm 27, and tomorrow I'll have two months. I'm sicker than a dog today, but it's still a lot better than being hungover!
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Old 01-23-2013, 09:59 AM
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There are AA meetings for young people. You can call your local AA phone # or the national # and they can tell you where they are. I'm not pushing AA one way or the other, but I've been to general meetings and there are plenty of young people.

If you don't want to hang with AA, it still might be useful to go to at least one meeting just to reassure yourself that you're not alone and see other folks your age living fun lives without alcohol.

When I was in college, getting together with friends always involved drinking. Always. My roommates all drank daily. I can imagine I would have been considered a spoiled sport if I didn't bend my elbow, but I was no exception.

It takes a lot of guts to make a personal decision like you have. I wish you the best.
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Old 01-23-2013, 10:51 AM
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I will be 29 for another 5 months or so and my goal is to enter my 30s totally alcohol free. Was able to stop drinking in August for about 6 weeks, got confident and cocky and had a bottle of wine and completely lost control... again. I know the main reason I drink is I don't know how to form attachments with other people. Went to a couple AA meetings but they were all much older and I don't ever know what to say, really. It was just a very awkward situation for me even though everyone was very nice. I keep hearing "you just have to put yourself out there...." so, I did that, and it didn't work for whatever reason... or it didn't seem to. Not sure what's wrong with my head but it seems like social situations are boring to me in general even though I seem to need it. Just wish there was more girls out there interested in computers, science, philosophy and other boring things like that instead of what's happening on TV or what their co-worker said about someone else... not sure what I'm suppose to say to stuff like that so I just smile. I don't know... somehow I have to find my nitch in society.
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Ive come to see how blessed I am to get sober young. Wouldnt trade it for the world!
Couldn't agree more!
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I'm 28 and live in the Washington, DC area. The culture here is the same, go out, get as drunk as you can and stumble home and/or pass out/black out somewhere. Here it lasts well into your 30s. It's ended badly for me so many times, very badly, and don't want any part of it anymore. I plan to avoid a lot of outings for a while, at least until I feel stronger.

Hello, books, my new friends! Although I have managed to talk a few people over for a board game party. Carcassonne perhaps?
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