gall1972

Today here in PA the kids had a two hour delay. I worked overnight and when I found out that the kids had a delay my addiction and I got to thinking about what I could do with some free time since I couldnt go to sleep right away.

The wife would be off to work... the boy would be sleeping until 900... I was thinking I could sneak some in.

Normally when there is a delay I would stay awake and have a couple of beers..... wake him up and spend some time with him before school... getting him breakfast etc.

Well... Today I came home brushed my teeth and went to bed. I set the alarm for 900. Woke my son up when the alarm went off...stayed in bed and had him get ready on his own. I had him come in to see me so I could give him a "have a good day"

Yep this small change worked for me.... I went to bed. I didnt sit around thinking I could run for a six pack.

Although I didnt feel I was being a very good father not being up to see my 14 year old off to school or to get him some breakfast etc... I was a better father for staying sober today and I am certain that in the long run he is glad and way better off that it was this way instead.

Staying sober!

Gall

Sazzle

'Nothing changes if nothing changes'. It's my favourite saying! So simple but so true.

You changed a reaction to a situation and as a consequence changed a habit/pattern. I'm sure your 14yo can get himself dressed and fed once in a while.

S x

Hevyn

Good job, Gall. It's so hard to change those old habits, but you did it right! Congratulations.

TTBABP

Nice I think that was a great way to deal with the situation.

Fandy

You weren't ignoring your 14 year old son, you were teaching him to get his own breakfast, pack a snack, maybe pick up his own mess.....

something I taught my 14 year old daughter too, when i left for work before she started school.

congrats on a smart solution!

vegibean

Yeah, Fandy has a point there too. I'm so glad you did the right thing.

nogard

Glad you didn't pick up That helps all of us