Dad's Funeral Update Part 2
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Dad's Funeral Update Part 2
Well,
I attended the funeral. I was dead set against going because of the negativity. I had made up my mind and felt ok with it. This morning my wife asked if I was still ok with the decision, told her I was. I asked that if she received any emails or calls to not tell me about them until the end of the day.
My niece forward me an email from my Dad's wife basically saying she could set aside any hard feelings and that we should come to the service. I called my wife and she told me I should go, but would understand if I did not.
I work 45 minutes from home, so the short notice was going to prevent me from being properly dressed, except I kept my suit in the car from the previous days wake I did not attend. My wife took off from work and rushed to my brothers house and we drove up. I am truely fortunate that I have the perfect match for a wife. She let me make my decision, then counseled me when I asked for it. She proceeds to drop everything and go with me, even though I told her I'd be ok.
There were not many people there, but I did get to see my Uncle (my Dad's much younger brother) that I have not seen in 20 years. That was worth the trip itself.
Sparing the remaining details, I was uncomfortable during the graveside ceremony, so I just imagined sitting on his lap as a child, being rocked. Typical for a man of few words that my most poinent memory is of that act of comfort.
I did get to say goodbye. No closure, but I'm sure the process has started.
In the past during long periods of sobriety, trying times would have been a chip in the wall, weakening it until I relented.
This event was a truck hitting the wall, with the truck sustaining the damage and the wall standing firm.
Thanks for reading and the past comments from the previous thread, they mean alot,
Toss
I attended the funeral. I was dead set against going because of the negativity. I had made up my mind and felt ok with it. This morning my wife asked if I was still ok with the decision, told her I was. I asked that if she received any emails or calls to not tell me about them until the end of the day.
My niece forward me an email from my Dad's wife basically saying she could set aside any hard feelings and that we should come to the service. I called my wife and she told me I should go, but would understand if I did not.
I work 45 minutes from home, so the short notice was going to prevent me from being properly dressed, except I kept my suit in the car from the previous days wake I did not attend. My wife took off from work and rushed to my brothers house and we drove up. I am truely fortunate that I have the perfect match for a wife. She let me make my decision, then counseled me when I asked for it. She proceeds to drop everything and go with me, even though I told her I'd be ok.
There were not many people there, but I did get to see my Uncle (my Dad's much younger brother) that I have not seen in 20 years. That was worth the trip itself.
Sparing the remaining details, I was uncomfortable during the graveside ceremony, so I just imagined sitting on his lap as a child, being rocked. Typical for a man of few words that my most poinent memory is of that act of comfort.
I did get to say goodbye. No closure, but I'm sure the process has started.
In the past during long periods of sobriety, trying times would have been a chip in the wall, weakening it until I relented.
This event was a truck hitting the wall, with the truck sustaining the damage and the wall standing firm.
Thanks for reading and the past comments from the previous thread, they mean alot,
Toss
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