Trying to stay sober this weekend? Check in here!
A simple guy making his way
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Join Date: Apr 2012
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Trying to stay sober this weekend? Check in here!
Is this going to be your first weekend sober? Maybe your second or third?
Maybe this is your 100th attempt at a sober Friday Saturday and Sunday. Commonly know as a weekend or to this addict an opportunity.
For me it's both of these things. I am still new at spending weekend time sober. And probably the 1000th time trying!
I recently went from trying and failing to trying and succeeding in managing weekend sobriety.
What changed? Why?
Glad you asked! I went through some painful events that put an exclamation point on my addictions. In a big way. Showed me how far things can go. How bad they can get. Or were.
But the big difference between before and after is I want it. I want to feel my sober body and mind so much more than I want to feel lost and shameful.
Consider this if you have tried and failed over and over.... Each time you try you save up a little more sober energy. The tank keeps filling with the desire to succeed and over come. Eventually that tank has enough to stay that way. Each sober day after that keeps adding to your understanding on how to stay strong and take care of yourself. You can do this.
So let's make today a sober day. Just for today. Then do it again tomorrow and Sunday. Add to your sober energy.
If this weekend turns out it was not the one...the tipping point in filling your tank... just remember you will get there. After all you're reading this so you must want it.
It's all in the execution I say.
but you need a plan!
Check in here over the weekend and share what you plan to do and simply how you are doing.
You... I mean we can do this!
Maybe this is your 100th attempt at a sober Friday Saturday and Sunday. Commonly know as a weekend or to this addict an opportunity.
For me it's both of these things. I am still new at spending weekend time sober. And probably the 1000th time trying!
I recently went from trying and failing to trying and succeeding in managing weekend sobriety.
What changed? Why?
Glad you asked! I went through some painful events that put an exclamation point on my addictions. In a big way. Showed me how far things can go. How bad they can get. Or were.
But the big difference between before and after is I want it. I want to feel my sober body and mind so much more than I want to feel lost and shameful.
Consider this if you have tried and failed over and over.... Each time you try you save up a little more sober energy. The tank keeps filling with the desire to succeed and over come. Eventually that tank has enough to stay that way. Each sober day after that keeps adding to your understanding on how to stay strong and take care of yourself. You can do this.
So let's make today a sober day. Just for today. Then do it again tomorrow and Sunday. Add to your sober energy.
If this weekend turns out it was not the one...the tipping point in filling your tank... just remember you will get there. After all you're reading this so you must want it.
It's all in the execution I say.
but you need a plan!Check in here over the weekend and share what you plan to do and simply how you are doing.
You... I mean we can do this!
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Originally Posted by Weasel1966 
I will be on here tomorrow night so please check in and say hello. No one is alone here.
Today will be my first Friday in a while NOT having a drink. I'm doing it!
A simple guy making his way
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Join Date: Apr 2012
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That's awesome vegie!
I cannot commit to the meeting but I will be here. I have some things at home planned but will have my iPad close by.
Glad to hear you are going to make this a sober weekend!
I cannot commit to the meeting but I will be here. I have some things at home planned but will have my iPad close by.
Glad to hear you are going to make this a sober weekend!
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Posts: 636
Today if I succeed will be my 10th day and 2nd weekend sober. This is the hardest part of the week for my sobriety. I actually get anxious since I'm use to going to the liquor store as soon as i get out of work and start the partying.
How I managed last week? I stayed home and read my books, I stayed away from my alcoholic friends and I got to sleep early. I been feeling down and depressed since I been sort of anti social to keep my sobriety going. Its lonely but im also learning a lot about myself. When I ask my friends, "what are you doing tonight?" The response is usually "going to a bar or club to get wasted."
What do you guys do in the weekends?
How I managed last week? I stayed home and read my books, I stayed away from my alcoholic friends and I got to sleep early. I been feeling down and depressed since I been sort of anti social to keep my sobriety going. Its lonely but im also learning a lot about myself. When I ask my friends, "what are you doing tonight?" The response is usually "going to a bar or club to get wasted."
What do you guys do in the weekends?
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Houston area
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Great thread. I relapsed three months ago after 2 years. Today is day 5 for me. Of all things to happen this weekend, an old Army friend is coming to stay with us tomorrow night and we're getting together with other friends and of all the places they chose to go tomorrow is the Hofbrauhaus.
I have gone out with these friends and drank and not drank and I know it is not that big of a deal to not drink. It was just that last night my husband was saying what is the big deal about one more night and that got my mind in turmoil again.
I woke up early this morning and prayed and will do recovery readings and prayer throughout the day because I am determined not to go backward.
Thanks for the thread and the support. We can all do this not matter what! Don't lose the progress you have made and start feeling sicker and get into more trouble again!
I have gone out with these friends and drank and not drank and I know it is not that big of a deal to not drink. It was just that last night my husband was saying what is the big deal about one more night and that got my mind in turmoil again.
I woke up early this morning and prayed and will do recovery readings and prayer throughout the day because I am determined not to go backward.
Thanks for the thread and the support. We can all do this not matter what! Don't lose the progress you have made and start feeling sicker and get into more trouble again!
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Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: fort wayne, IN.
Posts: 1,085
I have lost count on sober weekends. I think I stopped at 7. I can't believe it. It really gives me pause. I still feel a sense of triumph and gratitude on Monday mornings. I wonder if I will ever get to the point where Monday is just Monday? I hope not. I never want to forget, you know what I mean?
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Florida
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just last weekend, I woke up from a black out in the ditch next to my house, and the sun was up! OMG, the shame I felt as I walked around the corner into the house.
Today is day 2 for me, and I plan for a sober weekend. So plans. hmmmmm
Let me work on that. Maybe I can get my son to come spend the weekend with me and we can do his first long ride on our tri-bikes.
I will be back to report.
FF
Today is day 2 for me, and I plan for a sober weekend. So plans. hmmmmm
Let me work on that. Maybe I can get my son to come spend the weekend with me and we can do his first long ride on our tri-bikes.
I will be back to report.
FF
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Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Grand Rapids MI
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I have been sober for a while but I still make sure weekends are about recovery. Here is what is on my schedule
Saturday
Prayer and Meditation
7:50 AM Pickup sponsee #2 and go to Alano Club
8:00 - 9:00 AM Discuss 1st step
9:00 - 10:00 AM Attend AA Meeting
10:00 - 10:30 Introduce sponsee to sober friends
Some fun sober activity with wife
Prayer of thanks for another day sober
Sunday
Prayer and Medition
8:00 AM Pickup sponsee #1
8:00 - 9:00 AM Talk in general about recovery and life
9:00 - 10:00 AM Attend AA Meeting
10:00 - 10:30 AM AA Fellowship
Some sober fun activity with wife
Prayer of thanks for another sober day
Although AA takes up some of my day it is much less than the time I spent drinking. To me sobriety is about making changes in who I am and what I do. So far it has worked
Saturday
Prayer and Meditation
7:50 AM Pickup sponsee #2 and go to Alano Club
8:00 - 9:00 AM Discuss 1st step
9:00 - 10:00 AM Attend AA Meeting
10:00 - 10:30 Introduce sponsee to sober friends
Some fun sober activity with wife
Prayer of thanks for another day sober
Sunday
Prayer and Medition
8:00 AM Pickup sponsee #1
8:00 - 9:00 AM Talk in general about recovery and life
9:00 - 10:00 AM Attend AA Meeting
10:00 - 10:30 AM AA Fellowship
Some sober fun activity with wife
Prayer of thanks for another sober day
Although AA takes up some of my day it is much less than the time I spent drinking. To me sobriety is about making changes in who I am and what I do. So far it has worked
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Georgia
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I think as an alcoholic and an addict that I have an alarm that goes off in my body indicating that the weekend is almost here.....especially on Friday! Drives me nutty! I have been sober through a few weekends and have found that if I can make it through Friday night, it is much easier for Saturday and then Sunday. Sunday during the day gets a little tricky with watching the football games but I've learned to work around that! Amazing how I actually pay attention to the game rather then can't seem to follow what is happening because I'm looped
I plan on going out to dinner tonight with an early bedtime. That is key for me. I am still exhaused with this sobriety stuff. I think tonight will be much easier because I know other SR folks are going through what I am!
I plan on going out to dinner tonight with an early bedtime. That is key for me. I am still exhaused with this sobriety stuff. I think tonight will be much easier because I know other SR folks are going through what I am!
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Join Date: Oct 2012
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Ken, love the gas tank analogy and very encouraging post. Your timing is excellent. It's Friday, there's a hint of spring in the air here, and I'm feeling very tired of the monotony of being responsible. Another day of laundry, caring for mom, and work, just like yesterday and the day before that and so on. The AV was just starting to chime in so reading your post helped to shut it up. Thank you!
Trying to focus on the big picture. I have almost 6 months of sober weekends and I look back on how much more I have accomplished instead of wasting time drinking. It feels like I have so much catching up to do, but it's slowly happening.
For all you new people overwhelmed by the thought of weekends, try to create some little rewards for yourself for sticking to it. It might be a special dinner, or new music, or going to a movie, or calling an old friend to catch up. Things you never seemed to have time for that would make you feel good. Check in on SR a lot to remind yourself why this is important.
Catch up on sleep. It does get easier over time.
Trying to focus on the big picture. I have almost 6 months of sober weekends and I look back on how much more I have accomplished instead of wasting time drinking. It feels like I have so much catching up to do, but it's slowly happening.
For all you new people overwhelmed by the thought of weekends, try to create some little rewards for yourself for sticking to it. It might be a special dinner, or new music, or going to a movie, or calling an old friend to catch up. Things you never seemed to have time for that would make you feel good. Check in on SR a lot to remind yourself why this is important.
Catch up on sleep. It does get easier over time.
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Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Great Lakes
Posts: 35
Thanks for a great thread. On am starting day 5 so this will be my first completely sober weekend in 20 years (scary to think about). I will be doing many of my normal weekend tasks, in the past with a drink nearby, this time with SR nearby instead, so when the AV starts talking I have a place to turn. Looking forward to watching the Packers with my laptop right next to me. Looking forward to hanging with this group for the next 72 hours.
A simple guy making his way
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Join Date: Apr 2012
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This is great! You all are helping give me confidence in myself.
I was invited to my neighbors upstairs Sunday for the game. I told them flat out and matter of factly I don't think I can be in that environment and stay sober like I must. I am sorry. Invite me to modern family night instead. they said yes and no problem!
Won't mean my mind won't be there. Get a case of the f' it's. but I have you all to keep company now.
Ken
I was invited to my neighbors upstairs Sunday for the game. I told them flat out and matter of factly I don't think I can be in that environment and stay sober like I must. I am sorry. Invite me to modern family night instead.
they said yes and no problem!Won't mean my mind won't be there. Get a case of the f' it's. but I have you all to keep company now.
Ken
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Florida
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OK, great news for me. My 20 year old daughter and her boyfriend are coming to stay the weekend at my house. that gives me some peeps that love and pull for my sobriety around.
The univers helping me beat the Beast! sweet
The univers helping me beat the Beast! sweet
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Location: PA
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Honestly as sad as it sounds if I go home and go to sleep early on Friday I feel like I've made it over the hump. Problem is since I've relapased I haven't been able to do that. I'm on day 6 now hoping I make it through tonight.
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FlyerN.... Wen I know I am in those times my thinking gets much smaller. I cannot say right now that I can refer to this evening as an evening.
I have dinner reservations at 5:30. I know my heart will pound at that time wanting to get done with dinner so I can go to the bar. But I won't.
Then I plan on getting some ice cream. Again to avoid being home before 7. Then right into bed to watch TV in comfort. Watching a series I love.
I need to string that along. Think small and on only the next thing.
It's not like that a lot but I know where I am at and saying it hear means I am responsible to myself.
Hang tight tonight. Ending the binge cycle is totally possible!!
I have dinner reservations at 5:30. I know my heart will pound at that time wanting to get done with dinner so I can go to the bar. But I won't.
Then I plan on getting some ice cream. Again to avoid being home before 7. Then right into bed to watch TV in comfort. Watching a series I love.
I need to string that along. Think small and on only the next thing.
It's not like that a lot but I know where I am at and saying it hear means I am responsible to myself.
Hang tight tonight. Ending the binge cycle is totally possible!!
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