Women Who Love Psychopaths
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Women Who Love Psychopaths
When I first saw this I thought - def does not apply to me. For some reason today I started seeing if I could buy it on Amazon - (just out of interest - you know)- It's not avaliable in the UK.
Is STBXAH just an A? I am wondering. He has for years given me the 'silent treatment' .It can go on for months, the longest time before this was a year in 2005 and now we are coming up to a year again.
He did not control me - he just made comments like if my hair wasn't in the style he liked (which I wore for 20 years!) he made comments like - oh have you not had your hair done!.
He told me it was a shame my family did not care about me and how sad that was cos I was so loyal to them.
If I was dressed to go out (while he was going to stay in and drink) he would say - What time do you start?!
If I was upset and crying at what he said to me he would mock me - mimic the look on my face or my lips quivering ...
writing this is making me feel sick.
After occasionally preparing an elaborate dinner - he would ask if I planned to keep - spending at this extravagant level we could not afford - fio he would say!
I was not allowed to have my own computer for any length of time - he would need to take the parts out to fix somebody elses!
I asked him if this would ever stop - He said Never.
In Alanon I hear about others but the A's just seem to want to get drunk - not really anything else, not really all this other stuff I have had to deal with.
Am I delaying my recovery by not dealing with this other stuff too?
Maybe I need to get this book?
Is STBXAH just an A? I am wondering. He has for years given me the 'silent treatment' .It can go on for months, the longest time before this was a year in 2005 and now we are coming up to a year again.
He did not control me - he just made comments like if my hair wasn't in the style he liked (which I wore for 20 years!) he made comments like - oh have you not had your hair done!.
He told me it was a shame my family did not care about me and how sad that was cos I was so loyal to them.
If I was dressed to go out (while he was going to stay in and drink) he would say - What time do you start?!
If I was upset and crying at what he said to me he would mock me - mimic the look on my face or my lips quivering ...
writing this is making me feel sick.
After occasionally preparing an elaborate dinner - he would ask if I planned to keep - spending at this extravagant level we could not afford - fio he would say!
I was not allowed to have my own computer for any length of time - he would need to take the parts out to fix somebody elses!
I asked him if this would ever stop - He said Never.
In Alanon I hear about others but the A's just seem to want to get drunk - not really anything else, not really all this other stuff I have had to deal with.
Am I delaying my recovery by not dealing with this other stuff too?
Maybe I need to get this book?
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I posted about the book recently.
I highly recommend it. Some of the stuff you are talking about I experienced as well.
My guess is, if you think it goes beyond alcoholism it probably does. Knowledge is power.
Take care, Katie
I highly recommend it. Some of the stuff you are talking about I experienced as well.
My guess is, if you think it goes beyond alcoholism it probably does. Knowledge is power.
Take care, Katie
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: Rochester, ny
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I have the book too. It's excellent even if the A isn't a psychopath
They do so many pathogical bahaviors--specifically the disregard for others and emotional immaturity, manipulation, etc.
She also has a newsletter you can sign up for.
Really useful and helps you understand your own "typical codie" behaviors. I think she calls this your Super Traits.
My only issue is that she can't spell!! I wish she'd get an editor. LoL
She also has a newsletter you can sign up for.
Really useful and helps you understand your own "typical codie" behaviors. I think she calls this your Super Traits.
My only issue is that she can't spell!! I wish she'd get an editor. LoL
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