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New here, really scared

I'm 23 years old. I've had a pretty rough life. I deal with it by drinking. I don't drink as often as I used to but I binge when I do.
My fiancé is also an alcoholic.
We fight when we drink. Mostly because I get really upset when I'm drunk, I start thinking about things I shouldn't.
I was doing so well, until last night. I don't remember anything except him yelling at me. Now he won't talk to me and doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore.
I'm so scared.
I want to stop drinking but I think it's too late
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Old 01-01-2013, 06:54 PM
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It's never too late, because you won't be stopping drinking for him, but for yourself. This is a gift you give to yourself. Whether or not things work out with your fiance, you can live a sober and peaceful life.
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Old 01-01-2013, 07:05 PM
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It can't possibly be too late if you are here. Just read some posts and keep posting--there is lots of support on SR
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You got now where to go but up! Please get the help you need, you are to young to throw your life away. You can do it one day at a time. Go see a dr. because detox can be dangerous. I wish you all the luck and will be praying for you.
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Old 01-01-2013, 07:19 PM
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Hi and welcome Vyrisus

I think a lot of us here started drinking because of hard lives - but the drinking just ends up making our lives harder I think...

you'll find a lot of encouragement and support here - really glad you've found us

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Old 01-01-2013, 07:44 PM
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Vyrisus, it's never to late. I've been an alcoholic for twice as long as you've been alive, and now I'm 2 years, 7 months sober. You can do it. Happy New Year.

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Old 01-01-2013, 08:03 PM
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((Vyrisus)) - Welcome to SR!

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Old 01-01-2013, 08:30 PM
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Welcome ,Vy

Before I quit, I too thought it was too late.

I am 50 yrs old now and it is not too late. Yes I have losses and regrets, and dealing with that hasnt been easy, but I would have so many MORE if I'd kept drinking, y'know?
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Old 01-01-2013, 09:21 PM
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As long as you're still breathing it's never too late.
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Old 01-01-2013, 09:27 PM
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I'm 22,I quit and life is soooooo much better. It's way easier to quit while you're young...
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Old 01-01-2013, 09:43 PM
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Welcome to SR Glad you found us and that you decided to quit so young. Do you have a plan?
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Old 01-01-2013, 09:55 PM
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Originally Posted by Vyrisus View Post
I'm 23 years old. I've had a pretty rough life. I deal with it by drinking. I don't drink as often as I used to but I binge when I do.
My fiancé is also an alcoholic.
We fight when we drink. Mostly because I get really upset when I'm drunk, I start thinking about things I shouldn't.
I was doing so well, until last night. I don't remember anything except him yelling at me. Now he won't talk to me and doesn't know if he wants to be with me anymore.
I'm so scared.
I want to stop drinking but I think it's too late
Its never to late if you can still make the choice to enter recovery.

Hi, I'm Shock, and I'm a addict in recovery. Welcome to SR.
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Old 01-01-2013, 10:06 PM
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Welcome to SR. I felt pretty hopeless too when I found this site.
But it's never too late to quit if that's what you really want to do more than anything else.
I had lots and lots of issues, I still have. But when you leave the drinking behind, you learn to deal with them slowly, and one at a time.
You will find great support here. Stay close x
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Old 01-01-2013, 10:22 PM
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Welcome to the family! It's never too late to stop drinking. I too thought I was hopeless and would die a drink but I turned my life around and am now happily sober for three years. If I can do it, so can you!
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Old 01-01-2013, 10:29 PM
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It is never too late to start on the path of recovery. It is open to all ages.

I was 22 when i started my recovery. I am so thankful i started then.

All that matters is a desire to stop drinking and to live a better life.

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Old 01-02-2013, 07:40 AM
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Thanks everyone.
I do realize I need to quit, it's just scary. Mostly because I have no idea how to cope with anything in a healthy way.
I guess I will need to figure this out.
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Old 01-02-2013, 07:45 AM
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Originally Posted by nogard View Post
Welcome to SR Glad you found us and that you decided to quit so young. Do you have a plan?
Not yet, still trying to figure this out.
I've been through counseling and therapy but it hasn't worked.
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Old 01-02-2013, 07:50 AM
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Like I mentioned in my other thread, it's tough to live a sober life if you're with someone who is also a drinker. It can be done though but in my case there's a wall there that will be divisive. You can get past it but there's still a wall. In my case I just joined the other side. However we don't fight when she drinks and I stay sober. We just stay in our different worlds. If it's becoming an issue where you're fighting verbally or even worse then maybe it's time either one of you get out or you both try to seek help.
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Old 01-02-2013, 08:00 AM
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Originally Posted by FlyerNation View Post
Like I mentioned in my other thread, it's tough to live a sober life if you're with someone who is also a drinker. It can be done though but in my case there's a wall there that will be divisive. You can get past it but there's still a wall. In my case I just joined the other side. However we don't fight when she drinks and I stay sober. We just stay in our different worlds. If it's becoming an issue where you're fighting verbally or even worse then maybe it's time either one of you get out or you both try to seek help.
I'm hoping that once he sees that I am really trying to get better, maybe he will feel like he can too.
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Old 01-02-2013, 08:52 AM
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Take care of you. It's a better life sober. I'm on day 2. Keep trying. You have your whole life ahead. Good luck my friend.
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