Midlifecrisis

So I've given up opiates and benzos in the last month or more and gave up amphetamines years ago. The last thing to go is alcohol. I want to give up on New Year's Day. Is that bad? Like why don't I just do it today?

Sapling

It's a good question...Why don't you just give it up today?...What's your plan on getting and staying sober?

Midlifecrisis

My plan is to go back to counseling and actually work on my issues etc. prayer, family support, etc. That's what I've got right now. I'm not in a position to go to meetings but I'm looking into online ones.

firestorm090

A good decision today could save an awful hangover next week.

Sapling

It takes commitment...I was hopeless...I gave it everything I had...And I work on it everyday....But I'm liking life and I'll have a year and half in a couple days....I drank for 35 years...daily. Give it all you got....Sooner the better.

Midlifecrisis

True.

Alcohol had always a bit different for me (I know it's not) as its never been a huge part of my life until recently (preferred other drugs muchly, I don't even like it.). It's amazing what you turn to when you let go of everything else. It will become a big prob very soon if I don't stop.

Midlifecrisis

Yeah. It's going to have to be an everyday thing. I was in recovery for 9 years from substances but still in a full on Ed. So didnt really work on anything much.

Midlifecrisis

I obviously know it's a problem as I can't imagine New Years not drinking. It just seems so normal though, everyone I know drinks. Everyone I know doesn't have Irish coffees for breakfast and champagne for lunch though nor have they had addiction issues. Need to get my head around it. This will be as hard as anything.

Sapling

It's everyday for me...I'll always be alcoholic...It took me about three months to work the steps....To have the obsession removed as promised...And have the psychic change they talk about...A complete change in my thinking. Less about self....More about what I can pack into the stream of life. The thing that always got me was the damn obsession...It made life unlivable for me....Now I just practice a way of life that brings me freedom...And a little bit of something that I never even knew existed....Serenity.

Midlifecrisis

I would love for the obsession to be removed. I'm obsessed with drugs. Utterly obsessed with thoughts of using

Sapling

I read this and said...That's what I need....So I did what they did.


And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone - even alcohol. For by this time sanity will have returned. We will seldom be interested in liquor. If tempted, we recoil from it as from a hot flame. We react sanely and normally, and we will find that this has happened automatically. We will see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given us without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes! That is the miracle of it. We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality - safe and protected. We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us. We are neither cocky nor are we afraid. That is our experience. That is how we react so long as we keep in fit spiritual condition.

Midlifecrisis

Thankyou. That's good. Sanity! Sanity has returned! Can't wait!

HopingToday20

I've used the "New Years Resolution" excuse for the last five years and it never worked. In my experience, if you want to truly better yourself, you won't pick a future day to do so.

Best of luck to you.

Sapling

I got a brother that's done it 10 years in a row...I don't think he's even going to bother this year...He's not done....Yet.

Midlifecrisis

I know.


It's near future though! 3 days away!

I know, I know.

Midlifecrisis

I feel like. I'm so miserable all the time at the moment. I don't want to be miserable/feel self concious/worry on New Years. Just one last time.

Stupid I know.

Midlifecrisis

Ok

Dee74

Members are reminded this is a recovery forum. I've removed several posts under rule 2. It is inappropriate to promote the use of alcohol or drugs on our addiction recovery forums.


MLC - drinking won't help you manage your problems any better - and it won't help those in your family who really need you right now.

If you need help and support, use the proper channels to find that kind of support.

D

Midlifecrisis

Is this not one of the right channels?


Apologies. Sorry, I didn't realise, still finding my way around.

Startingover444

The happiest times in my life have been the times when I wasnt drinking or using. Thats when my sanity and serenity returns.
Do it now Mid, there is no time like the present