I am walking the walk....
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I am walking the walk....
So today, my husband and I went shopping and he hates to go shopping. He made it a very special day and all about me. At first, I had a hard time letting him buy me some expensive gifts. Then I thought NO, I am just going to enjoy living in the moment.
The last couple of years, I have had a hard time buying for myself, it was always about the kids and him but I have worked on that a lot lately
Today, I started thinking...Well, I just bought 2 new pair of boots, a lot of new clothes, got my hair straightened, etc, etc. I don't need anything else but he insisted and I let him. 
We came home and were wiped out but I really wanted to go to church. I told him I was going, would love it if he came, the choice was his and either way, I was fine with it.
I didn't guilt or manipulate him into going! I didn't remind him of the things I attend with or for him (my old MO). I just got ready and accepted he wouldn't be going To my surprise, he was ready before I was.
He has not been going to church with me since he started working his recovery but always went when he was using. I think shame, pride and ego kept him from going back. On the way there, he shared that he was in fact embarrassed. I told him that no one should judge him and if they do...its on them. I also taught him "it's none of my business what you think of me." He just looked at me, laughed and said "I love your new attitude" Guess what? I do too!
I am walking the walk....
The last couple of years, I have had a hard time buying for myself, it was always about the kids and him but I have worked on that a lot lately
Today, I started thinking...Well, I just bought 2 new pair of boots, a lot of new clothes, got my hair straightened, etc, etc. I don't need anything else but he insisted and I let him. We came home and were wiped out but I really wanted to go to church. I told him I was going, would love it if he came, the choice was his and either way, I was fine with it.
I didn't guilt or manipulate him into going! I didn't remind him of the things I attend with or for him (my old MO). I just got ready and accepted he wouldn't be going To my surprise, he was ready before I was.
He has not been going to church with me since he started working his recovery but always went when he was using. I think shame, pride and ego kept him from going back. On the way there, he shared that he was in fact embarrassed. I told him that no one should judge him and if they do...its on them. I also taught him "it's none of my business what you think of me." He just looked at me, laughed and said "I love your new attitude" Guess what? I do too!
I am walking the walk....
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