Today and tomorrow are going to be brutal
Idiot that picked up a bottle.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Melbourne, FL
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Today and tomorrow are going to be brutal
I am missing my wife something fierce. I cannot even call and say Merry Christmas. I cannot call and make amends either, both because of the no contact order. I don't want to go to jail so I have to sit here alone thinking of everyone decorating the tree and exchanging gifts.
Yeah its getting rougher by the second. I'm gonna hit a meeting later. I wish I didn't make her hate me. I wish I never said the things I said to her. I wish I never picked up that drink that night.
I am filled with self loathing. I miss and love that woman so much.
Yeah its getting rougher by the second. I'm gonna hit a meeting later. I wish I didn't make her hate me. I wish I never said the things I said to her. I wish I never picked up that drink that night.
I am filled with self loathing. I miss and love that woman so much.
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Don't be so hard on yourself. Be kind to yourself.
I know exactly what you mean. But maybe this all hapenned for a reason. It's hard to see the reasons when we have our face right in it but with time you will paobably realize it's for the better.
I personally am giving myself time, accepting things the way they are and accepting I messed up.
Blessing
I know exactly what you mean. But maybe this all hapenned for a reason. It's hard to see the reasons when we have our face right in it but with time you will paobably realize it's for the better.
I personally am giving myself time, accepting things the way they are and accepting I messed up.
Blessing
I do feel bad for your situation ghostman but you love your wife so think - she may just need time alone now. Take care of yourself now and maybe slowly (very slowly) but surely you can gain back her trust. If you can't - then learn from this experience and make your self better - just for you and just because - you do deserve it.
Merry Christmas
Merry Christmas
Idiot that picked up a bottle.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Melbourne, FL
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I'm sorry you're feeling lonely and overwhelmed Ghostman - I think a lot of people here are feeling that way....
Stick around here...hit some meetings - as many as you need....I think
maybe the key for you this Xmas is support support support?
and the right kind of support, man - hanging out with your ex sounds kinda like a kick in the butt waiting to happen...I think you've had enough kicks recently....
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Stick around here...hit some meetings - as many as you need....I think
maybe the key for you this Xmas is support support support?
and the right kind of support, man - hanging out with your ex sounds kinda like a kick in the butt waiting to happen...I think you've had enough kicks recently....
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Yep, the past is dead but we tend to keep reliving it with regrets and further dumb actions setting up that proverbial vicious circle.
Be kind to yourself, think things out, and you will find it is easier to be kind to others.
Be kind to yourself, think things out, and you will find it is easier to be kind to others.
Hey Ghostman, sorry your feeling so down, I am having a similiar morning, but without the self loathing and hate that passes with time.
Dee is absolutley right, up and into action, talk calls meetings make it not about me, it was about me for so long, so feel the feelings be alive and be in it.
Thanks Dee. I am sending you such a lot of Love.
Dee is absolutley right, up and into action, talk calls meetings make it not about me, it was about me for so long, so feel the feelings be alive and be in it.
Thanks Dee. I am sending you such a lot of Love.
I'm pulling for you ghostman... Stay sober no matter what... Surround yourself with sober people.. This is a tough time of year to be alone. If you really love your wife and want any chance of reconciling, you may want to stay away from the ex....
Idiot that picked up a bottle.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Melbourne, FL
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I literally have no other place to go. If it was not for her I would be sleeping in my car now.
I am missing my wife something fierce. I cannot even call and say Merry Christmas. I cannot call and make amends either, both because of the no contact order. I don't want to go to jail so I have to sit here alone thinking of everyone decorating the tree and exchanging gifts.
Yeah its getting rougher by the second. I'm gonna hit a meeting later. I wish I didn't make her hate me. I wish I never said the things I said to her. I wish I never picked up that drink that night.
I am filled with self loathing. I miss and love that woman so much.
Yeah its getting rougher by the second. I'm gonna hit a meeting later. I wish I didn't make her hate me. I wish I never said the things I said to her. I wish I never picked up that drink that night.
I am filled with self loathing. I miss and love that woman so much.
Idiot that picked up a bottle.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Melbourne, FL
Posts: 85
All I can do is throw options at you GM
Here's another one:
2-1-1 Call Center Search
and there's always the Salvation Army - they may be able to help with short term shelter, employment or a more long term housing solution - their work for board rehab programme is 6 months I think.
The Salvation Army: Housing and Homeless Services
The Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center: Rehabilitation Program
best wishes to you whatever way you go
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Here's another one:
2-1-1 Call Center Search
2-1-1 provides free and confidential information and referral. Call 2-1-1 for help with food, housing, employment, health care, counseling and more. Learn more about your local 2-1-1 by looking it up here.
The Salvation Army: Housing and Homeless Services
The Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center: Rehabilitation Program
best wishes to you whatever way you go
D
Idiot that picked up a bottle.
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Join Date: Dec 2012
Location: Melbourne, FL
Posts: 85
All I can do is throw options at you GM
Here's another one:
2-1-1 Call Center Search
and there's always the Salvation Army - they may be able to help with short term shelter, employment or a more long term housing solution - their work for board rehab programme is 6 months I think.
The Salvation Army: Housing and Homeless Services
The Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center: Rehabilitation Program
best wishes to you whatever way you go
D
Here's another one:
2-1-1 Call Center Search
and there's always the Salvation Army - they may be able to help with short term shelter, employment or a more long term housing solution - their work for board rehab programme is 6 months I think.
The Salvation Army: Housing and Homeless Services
The Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center: Rehabilitation Program
best wishes to you whatever way you go
D
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Maybe i'm to new to reply but i do think 1 thing. As a drunk it's easier to give advice than to accept it.
I have been through the same situation as you, and i kept telling myself, the best thing i can do is just take good care of myself and see that i can change for the better. but i'm not. so i could tell you the same, assuming you will.
Change as in "to win her back"
I have been through the same situation as you, and i kept telling myself, the best thing i can do is just take good care of myself and see that i can change for the better. but i'm not. so i could tell you the same, assuming you will.
Change as in "to win her back"
Hi ghostman . Sometimes it is better if you can just focus on yourself. Easier said than done, eh? Now you're lonely for the wife yet you get together with an ex? You sound just like me. Back when I was a Drunk and then later newly sober I was still focusing on external things and I am horrible about getting lonely and wanting physical contact .
I know it is so hard to let it go but maybe just work on getting sober, getting support, and a place to be?
I might be completely wrong here, but I see a bit of me in your posts and wonder if you're not having some issues with codependency too? That is an ongoing struggle/journey for me as well.
Best wishes to you.
I know it is so hard to let it go but maybe just work on getting sober, getting support, and a place to be?
I might be completely wrong here, but I see a bit of me in your posts and wonder if you're not having some issues with codependency too? That is an ongoing struggle/journey for me as well.
Best wishes to you.
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