today15the1

Trying to stay positive but its so HARD. Found out today my fear of Him using was TRUE. WHY HAVE I YET TO KICK HIM OUT!!! i DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG WITH ME. WANTING TO CRY BUT CANT. HERE I AM AN EDUCATED WOMAN THAT WORKS AND OWES HER OWN HOME HAS HER OWN CAR, RAISED HER CHILDREN THE BEST I COULD. AND NOW HERE I AM IN THIS CRAZZZZZZZY RELATIONSHIP THAT SOMEHOW HAS A HOLD ON ME. HE HAS YET TO GET IN CONTACT WITH ME CONCERNING WHAT I SEEN. HE GOT DRUNK AND HIGH AND LEFT HIS EVIDENCE OUT. HERE I AM I HAVE NOT GOT CONTACTED HIM AS WELL ITS SO CRAZY TO ME. SOMEONE PLEASSSSSE HELP ME UNDERSTAND WHATS HAPPENING HERE

suki44883

Sounds like you are addicted to the addict. It's not so uncommon as you may think. Hang around here and read a lot of the posts from others who are dealing with the same things. You will find a lot of support here.

today15the1

WOW THAT WAS TO THE POINT, AND QUESS WHAT ITS OKAY BECAUSE THATS WHAT I NEED. LIKE YOUR QUOTE SAID I HAVE THE KEY. I JUST HAVE TO USE IT!!! Thanks

Pelican

Is using/possessing illegal drugs acceptable behavior to you?

Is it acceptable to bring illegal substances into your home?

I agree with Suki ~ we become addicted to our addicts and can't imagine living without them. It took me a long while to finally accept that I had an unhealthy attachment to my AH.

How could I tell that I had an unhealthy attachment to my AH? I took his actions personally. I reacted as if he was doing these unacceptable things TO ME. I felt like I was a victim of his unaccptable actions. I was emotionally entagled, attached to him and his behaviors.

Truth is: He was not doing these thing TO ME, but simply doing them for HIMSELF. Therefore, I could remove my feelings of being a victim of his unacceptable behaviors.

Reality: I was a willing participant is accepting his unacceptable behavior.