Just out of rehab
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Just out of rehab
Hey all,
My abf just got out of rehab on Monday. He has been a bit withdrawn and moody. Wondering what i can do to help. What is helpful to you during the first few weeks of recovery? Do i ask if he is going to a meeting, do i just assume he is? Do i ask how he is feeling, do i just pretend it doesnt exist? Any thoughts would be helpful! thanks in advance
My abf just got out of rehab on Monday. He has been a bit withdrawn and moody. Wondering what i can do to help. What is helpful to you during the first few weeks of recovery? Do i ask if he is going to a meeting, do i just assume he is? Do i ask how he is feeling, do i just pretend it doesnt exist? Any thoughts would be helpful! thanks in advance
Perhaps you can ask him that question, "What can I do to help you through this?"
I'm pretty sure you already know this, but nothing you do will keep him sober if he decides to drink. And nothing you do (or don't do) is the reason.
This is on him.
Good luck.
I'm pretty sure you already know this, but nothing you do will keep him sober if he decides to drink. And nothing you do (or don't do) is the reason.
This is on him.
Good luck.
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What did rehab tell him to do when they released him?
He had better be going to AA meetings regularly and you should be going to Al-Anon.
He will require what he "needs", not always what he "wants"
The recovery process has just begun.
All the best.
Bob R
He had better be going to AA meetings regularly and you should be going to Al-Anon.
He will require what he "needs", not always what he "wants"
The recovery process has just begun.
All the best.
Bob R
Just let him know that you are willing to support him. I went to rehab as well. Happy to get out but took me a bit to let reality set in. My wife did benefit a lot from Al Anon but that was our experience. I cannot tell you what to do or really give advice. I can say what I/we did and if it helps you then great. This is on him like Carl stated. Take care of yourself as well. Hope it all goes well for you guys.
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Why didn't they set it up ?? What was rehabs direction to him/you upon his release ?
Read Chapters 8 & 9 here Big Book On Line
All the best.
Bob R
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Needless to say we are not thrilled with the rehab. It came down to he made the decision to go so he went wherever had a bed. He didn't want to put it off. The program was only two weeks which was not ideal but something is better than nothing. They were supposed to set up the outpatient but he said they were very unorganized and only called the outpatient the day he was being checked out. He tried to set up the outpatient earlier but he couldnt make calls so he couldnt get in touch with his addiction counselor that runs the iop program. They encouraged him to do outpatient and aa. Really annoying.
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Well, here you are with rehab behind hubby and the future in front of you both.
I suggest you both attend meetings and get to meet folks who are working it... the winners. Ask every question you can think of and follow the oldtimers.
You will find the oldtimers aren't perfect but they are better than you two are right now.
Welcome to recovery and enjoy the ride (hard to do in the beginning).
PM me if you wish.
All the best
Bob R
I suggest you both attend meetings and get to meet folks who are working it... the winners. Ask every question you can think of and follow the oldtimers.
You will find the oldtimers aren't perfect but they are better than you two are right now.
Welcome to recovery and enjoy the ride (hard to do in the beginning).
PM me if you wish.
All the best
Bob R
I did a 30-day inpatient and returning to day-to-day life was tough. That's when the hard work starts, I think.... we have to face everything again and figure out how to do it without alcohol.
One thing that really would have helped me: being able to talk about what I was going through. I didn't have that with my husband. I think just being there to listen is a real gift to someone just starting recovery. Your bf is lucky to have someone like you who is so supportive.
One thing that really would have helped me: being able to talk about what I was going through. I didn't have that with my husband. I think just being there to listen is a real gift to someone just starting recovery. Your bf is lucky to have someone like you who is so supportive.
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