mfox

Today would be my kids' dad's (my ex-husband's) 45th birthday. He let drugs and alcohol take over his life and I had to let him go. He was an amazing person - charming, charismatic, smart, fun, and one of the best friends I have ever known - that is, before the drugs consumed him. He ultimately committed suicide.

There is so much he has missed out on with our kids in the past 8 years since he has been gone. Moreover, there is so much THEY have missed - and will continue to miss out on by not having their dad in their life. He will never take my son fishing again. He will not be at their graduations. He will not be there to intimidate my daughter's dates or walk her down the aisle at her wedding. He will not fall in love with their children. They miss him every day.

So I am taking a moment to share my opinion... Suicide hurts. It hurts everyone who has ever been touched by you, your love and your life. It is not a joke. It is not a threat to be used to manipulate people. It is real. There is nothing in this life - no difficulty or heartbreak so devastating to warrant inflicting this level of pain on your loved ones - your kids, your parents, your siblings, your friends, or even the guy at the coffee shop you see every Friday. No matter how low you may feel, you always have someone who loves you and NEEDS you in their life. Be stronger that this. Be bigger than this. Be there to experience all the blessings in life God has in store for you. It is worth it. Just my thoughts.

Peacegirl

So very sorry for your loss.

LoveMeNow

(((mfox))) My prayers are with all who loved and loss him.

Sungrl

Thank you for that post. It never ceases to amaze me how total strangers can touch our hearts and our souls so deeply. Your story is heartbreaking and I will have you in my thoughts all day.

Ann

I'm sending big hugs, dealing with suicide is a long and painful process.

Keeping you in my prayers.

Hugs

crazybabie

keeping you in my prayers

Dee74

many prayers and good wishes mfox.
I'm sorry for your loss.

D

Kindeyes

Thank you for sharing the pain that you, your children, and everyone who loved your husband have endured as a result of his suicide. I am so sorry for your loss and I am amazed at your courage. Sharing your experience could make the difference.......in just one life.....and all who love them.

gentlest hugs
ke

BoxinRotz

I lost my sister in March to suicide. I know that pain all too well. I feel it every day as does my mom, who found her, my dad and my brothers and everyone who loved her. You and your children have my deepest sympathy.

supportforme

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this powerful post.