I can smell it...
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I can smell it...
Well today should be a week....and as far as he is concerned that is what myself and his temporary AA sponsor believe. However, as I am not a drinker (I currently have a major HATE on for alcohol of any kind), I smelled it last night on his breath. So obviously he is not only lying to me and others, but himself which is the worst. I did not however, confront him as this would cause a scene, just knowing is enough for me. I was able to get through it though and went to bed praying that today would be a better day. I wish it was easy to just part ways but like life it isnt. I am going to pray and go to work and just think....
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BTDT and ruined the t-shirt!
The smell. It's an *In your face* smell that no one can deny but they still do.
My AH, when drunk will argue with anybody that you can't smell vodka on the breath. I have, at times, told him that one shot of vodka may be undetectable but when you continuously pour, lets say water on a sponge, the sponge can't hold it after too much, and it starts seeping everywhere, dripping... Kinda like that vodka on your breath. I usually get the deer in head lights moment from him and another, I'M NOT DRINKING!
Ugh... I swear, he insults my intelligence. He thinks I'm soooooooo stupid. In actuallity, he's just lying to himself. So, I know what you are going through right now. It hurts to see them lie so blatantly to themselves #1 and to us. This is what alcohol does. He's not ready and lying is a reason to protect his drink. He will lie to protect it=he's not ready to put it down.
The smell. It's an *In your face* smell that no one can deny but they still do.
My AH, when drunk will argue with anybody that you can't smell vodka on the breath. I have, at times, told him that one shot of vodka may be undetectable but when you continuously pour, lets say water on a sponge, the sponge can't hold it after too much, and it starts seeping everywhere, dripping... Kinda like that vodka on your breath. I usually get the deer in head lights moment from him and another, I'M NOT DRINKING!
Ugh... I swear, he insults my intelligence. He thinks I'm soooooooo stupid. In actuallity, he's just lying to himself. So, I know what you are going through right now. It hurts to see them lie so blatantly to themselves #1 and to us. This is what alcohol does. He's not ready and lying is a reason to protect his drink. He will lie to protect it=he's not ready to put it down.
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Confuse, it is a myth that everyone who attends AA meetings is sober. Alcoholism is very baffling & I have met folks who have tried to use AA to reduce their drinking. Which did not work. I have known folks who were "drunk as a skunk" get a 30dy or 6 month sobriety chip. Not saying AA doesn't work but sometimes it takes a while before true sobriety is achieved. Believe me though, he is not fooling his sponser or the other drunks in the room.
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Originally Posted by Justfor1 
Confuse, it is a myth that everyone who attends AA meetings is sober. Alcoholism is very baffling & I have met folks who have tried to use AA to reduce their drinking. Which did not work. I have known folks who were "drunk as a skunk" get a 30dy or 6 month sobriety chip. Not saying AA doesn't work but sometimes it takes a while before true sobriety is achieved. Believe me though, he is not fooling his sponser or the other drunks in the room.
But what justfor1 says above is true - he's not fooling anyone, except himself, and probably not very well at that, either.
Just let him continue down this path - maybe attending and playing this role right now could turn into something more serious when he's really ready to quit. At least he knows how to get to a meeting!
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