Some good news....
A simple guy making his way
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Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Maine
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Some good news....
First off its probably the stand out question..... Am I safe? YES
This incident is the first of its kind in 19 years and things are calm between us. This is amicable and he is quite remorseful. I will be making long term decisions based on what happened and they can happen as I see fit on my time table.
But this site is about alcoholism so lets stay on topic. That's my only focus. My sobriety and only mine. Getting the help I need from the right sources.
So some good news.... The promotion I was told about in October has been finalized. Big fat raise and some very much needed comments about who I really am.
I asked them to hold off on the congrats event as I wanted my face to go back to normal. But my boss... His boss... And her boss all were quite nice and agreeable. Being appreciated helps pick me up some. Even when the contrast in lives is so apparent.
The doctor said he does not think I need surgery but he will confirm after the CT scan is read.
I have not been able to connect with my counselor so I have not discussed this with anyone in person yet.
Going to restart AA again. I go tomorrow night. Today I have to work late to make up time.
Someone said to me in all this that I am right where I need to be. That is true. I am thick headed and slow to accept anything negative. I grew up with trying to scrap hope together constantly.
I can tell you there is a before an after. I don't feel bound by what I did before. I have lost my sense of obligation to many things and find my thinking only about what my needs are.
But it's all in the execution. The actions. So..... I know what they are today.... I know for tomorrow. That's all I need right now. So I will move on.
Oh yeah! And day 4! Of many many more to come!
This incident is the first of its kind in 19 years and things are calm between us. This is amicable and he is quite remorseful. I will be making long term decisions based on what happened and they can happen as I see fit on my time table.
But this site is about alcoholism so lets stay on topic. That's my only focus. My sobriety and only mine. Getting the help I need from the right sources.
So some good news.... The promotion I was told about in October has been finalized. Big fat raise and some very much needed comments about who I really am.
I asked them to hold off on the congrats event as I wanted my face to go back to normal. But my boss... His boss... And her boss all were quite nice and agreeable. Being appreciated helps pick me up some. Even when the contrast in lives is so apparent.
The doctor said he does not think I need surgery but he will confirm after the CT scan is read.
I have not been able to connect with my counselor so I have not discussed this with anyone in person yet.
Going to restart AA again. I go tomorrow night. Today I have to work late to make up time.
Someone said to me in all this that I am right where I need to be. That is true. I am thick headed and slow to accept anything negative. I grew up with trying to scrap hope together constantly.
I can tell you there is a before an after. I don't feel bound by what I did before. I have lost my sense of obligation to many things and find my thinking only about what my needs are.
But it's all in the execution. The actions. So..... I know what they are today.... I know for tomorrow. That's all I need right now. So I will move on.
Oh yeah! And day 4! Of many many more to come!
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Good for you for getting the promotion, and I'm glad you're feeling better.
You didn't ask for input, but...one incident in 19 years is one too many. I think when the line to physical violence is crossed, you are never safe again. Ken, I am saying this with love for you.
You didn't ask for input, but...one incident in 19 years is one too many. I think when the line to physical violence is crossed, you are never safe again. Ken, I am saying this with love for you.
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I 100% agree with Anna Ken.
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Ken, the first time my husband punched me on the side of my head, followed by him trying to choke me, i filed for a restraining order. Although we were in the middle of our divorce, i sent a message that he crossed the line.
Be careful. Take care and congrats on the promo.
I hope meeting with your therapist helps you.
Be careful. Take care and congrats on the promo.
I hope meeting with your therapist helps you.
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I don't feel bound by what I did before. I have lost my sense of obligation to many things and find my thinking only about what my needs are.
But it's all in the execution. The actions. So..... I know what they are today.... I know for tomorrow. That's all I need right now. So I will move on.
Day 4
Bestwishes, M
Just keep linking them together one day at a time!
A simple guy making his way
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Thank you all!
To your point. one time is to many. My therapist said some sobering things. Sorry for the pun.
"If I can be hit 4 times while at my most vunerable and after I was down for the first then there is a rage for me that cannot be overlooked and is very very serious."
I am not a stupid man. enough said on that for now. The internet is not where I need to decalre anything. but the comments are understood.
as for day 5 that has arrived at my feet? Busy busy work day with implementing a large software project I designed! Yeah! hope it works now... hmmm... thats a different story.
Ken
To your point. one time is to many. My therapist said some sobering things. Sorry for the pun.
"If I can be hit 4 times while at my most vunerable and after I was down for the first then there is a rage for me that cannot be overlooked and is very very serious."
I am not a stupid man. enough said on that for now. The internet is not where I need to decalre anything. but the comments are understood.
as for day 5 that has arrived at my feet? Busy busy work day with implementing a large software project I designed! Yeah! hope it works now... hmmm... thats a different story.
Ken
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