unentschieden

Here I am one year later. I don't celebrate holidays or anniversaries; to me time is all about the present, but I thought I would pop in to jot down some things I've learned in one year of sobriety.

1. I am not special. ALL of my deepest questions about sobriety have already been posed here on these forums!
2. Society approves of drunken irresponsible behavior
3. Your sobriety means the most to you
4. Most people won't care that you don't drink
5. Any reason you come up with as to why you are justified in drinking is a lie
6. Lying to yourself is the most pitiful deception
7. Moderation is not worth it
8. The benefits of sobriety far outweigh the momentary release of drunkenness

I can't thank everyone here on SR enough for being around when I needed to vent, to read about your struggles, to learn from your mistakes.

Thanks to the regulars on SR for treating us all like its not the 1000th time you've fielded the "maybe moderation will work for me" question.

Dee's simple answer of "why try to find out? Why not just quit?" Saved me another year or two of obsessive agony.

I am free of the constant obsessive thoughts of counting the minutes until the drinking can start, free of hiding alcohol from the BF, free of feeling crappy every morning. Oh, and I SLEEP LIKE A BABY. Well, more nights than not at least.

I have self-respect again. Self-control. Self-awareness.

The first thirty days seemed a lot longer than the last 6 months!

If I could do it over again (the quitting not the drinking) I would tell less people. For some reason I was compelled to tell strangers and acquaintances. Frankly, no one gives a hoot past politeness.

Thanks for reading!

Zube

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Zube

Dee74

I'm really glad if anything I said helped unentschieden

and you may not be big on anniversaries...but congratulations anyway - thanks for sharing it with the rest of us...I love hearing stories of hope

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Applecrumble

Absolutely fantastic work! Thank you for the update

GerandTwine

Wow! Glad I was online to catch this freshly posted. Very well put, as I see it.

GT

awuh1

Unentschieden, thanks for sharing that. Congrats on the year and best wishes for the next!

Jeni26

Thanks for sharing. And congratulations. What an inspiration xxx

Startingover444

Magical
Thanks for sharing and congratulations Unentschieden

ACT10Npack

Good job on your ONE YEAR of sobriety. All the best for you :-)

MythOfSisyphus

Congrats on a full year! That's really great. And that's for a great post, Unentschieden. I should print that out and carry it in my wallet.

unentschieden

Thanks everyone! This is such a great community of people.

And yes, Dee: your simple yet piercing words helped a great deal and your ability to cut through all the bull in twenty words or less is amazing!

Sazzle

What a great post. Well done on your year. I'm still in the first 90 so I'm pleased to read that it will start to fly by! Loved what you said about other people. They really don't give two hoots.

Way to go!

S x

dragon12

Brilliant post. God work!

instant

Great post- great insights . Thank you for sharing

hypochondriac

Thanks for posting that unentschieden and well done on a year! It really helps to hear of people's progress and that's some excellent advice x

least

Good job on one year sober!!

nigey1

That helps, thanks. Number 2 is oh so true.

Roadr440

Congrats on one year unentschieden.......

neferkamichael

Unentschieden, 1 year. You are FANTASTIC. Congratulations.

David10

well done hope I make it a year.