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Old 12-09-2012, 09:31 AM
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Feeling disappointment

This morning an email arrived to tell me of the canceling of an invitation that had been extended to me to do something I really wanted to do tomorrow with a small group. Here I am 6 months sober and I am for the first time experiencing real feelings. Disappointment. Sad. Deflated a bit. After mulling it over and having the kinda yuk feeling a while, it suddenly hit me that I never allowed myself to have that sort of feeling when I was drinking. Then during these last sober months, I have really been hit by a numbed out, flat affect. Wow, now I seem to have turned a big new corner. I have actually felt disappointment and it did not kill me. I am the stronger for it, I am now planning what I will do tomorrow instead. Guess this sounds really like making a big deal out of nothing, but it really is a brand new experience for me.
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Old 12-09-2012, 09:42 AM
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Auvers - That is a HUGE deal!! This is the kind of stuff sobriety is all about! I am proud of you!!!

I loved your post! Plan something fun tomorrow; you deserve it
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Old 12-09-2012, 01:59 PM
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I have actually felt disappointment and it did not kill me.
That was an amazingly big deal for me too.
Thanks for your post Auvers - way to go!

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Old 12-09-2012, 02:09 PM
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I know what you mean and it is a big deal. I'm working through emotions without my default setting of getting drunk. Recently found out my ex has a new girlfriend. That was tough but I survived without drink. Good post. It's good to celebrate each milestone

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Old 12-09-2012, 05:41 PM
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Feeling these "foreign" emotions slowly turned from weird to esteeming.
I was finally feeling grown up, able to deal with life's issues & not run for the bottle.

Of course, everything made me run to the bottle, disappointments, stress, excitement, feeling tired, feeling happy...you get it.

But I realized feelings are just that...they won't kill me, drinking will & feelings will eventually change & change again.

It feels good to not run from what makes us who we are.
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Old 12-09-2012, 05:45 PM
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You turned sad news into something positive. That's progress. Way to go Auvers.
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Old 12-09-2012, 05:54 PM
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I love your post. Learning to deal with feelings is a huge step in recovery.
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