Insert sanity here
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Insert sanity here
I am posting a lot today... lol
Was just on Facebook. Not a fan of it. Seeing people's lives and the inane details. But I go on every now and then.
My brothers family was all on there celebrating my nephews graduation from boot camp. I am proud of him.
But it struck me quite deeply that while they focus on life and what's new and next I have spent many years adrift in drinking and drugs.
While his boys grew, I grew none.
Typically I would sit back and think about all that is not. No more. It's time.
I refuse to continue to think that way. I have done a lot in my life. There is so much more to do.
I posted a note and liked a few picture of them all together. I am happy for my brother. His kids are really good and amazing. Hard to believe he raised them.
I would use this as a way to beat myself down. From here it would be the next "bad" thing about me. Then by the end of a Friday I would be at the bar.
But I am inserting sanity here.
My life is as good as anyone else's even if I spent years drinking. I am not drinking now.
I have plans tonight that are fun and I am looking forward. Also a meeting.
Comparing my life to anyone else's is not a reason to drink. That way of thinking has to go.
Still I feel the pain. But it's what I do with it that's changed.
Was just on Facebook. Not a fan of it. Seeing people's lives and the inane details. But I go on every now and then.
My brothers family was all on there celebrating my nephews graduation from boot camp. I am proud of him.
But it struck me quite deeply that while they focus on life and what's new and next I have spent many years adrift in drinking and drugs.
While his boys grew, I grew none.
Typically I would sit back and think about all that is not. No more. It's time.
I refuse to continue to think that way. I have done a lot in my life. There is so much more to do.
I posted a note and liked a few picture of them all together. I am happy for my brother. His kids are really good and amazing. Hard to believe he raised them.
I would use this as a way to beat myself down. From here it would be the next "bad" thing about me. Then by the end of a Friday I would be at the bar.
But I am inserting sanity here.
My life is as good as anyone else's even if I spent years drinking. I am not drinking now.
I have plans tonight that are fun and I am looking forward. Also a meeting.
Comparing my life to anyone else's is not a reason to drink. That way of thinking has to go.
Still I feel the pain. But it's what I do with it that's changed.
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Well I can say with certainty that I am not addicted to it. I am not a fan.
It's like advertising. I can spin a good ad for what kens life is all about. Put out there the smile and achievements. Then when I have sold the package and they get it home and open it up. Nothing but stuffing!
Lol
It's like advertising. I can spin a good ad for what kens life is all about. Put out there the smile and achievements. Then when I have sold the package and they get it home and open it up. Nothing but stuffing!
Lol
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Yes, Facebook is tough. But when i really think about it, do i want to be them, do i want to be doing what they are supposedly doing (insert ego here!)? Not usually. as you say Fitz, your life is just as valid and awesome as anyone else's.
I used to drink as a way to cope with feeling like I was a useless, messed up idiot - doh! But now I realise I don't have to be - I want to turn my life into a positive self fulfilling prophecy instead of a negative one.
I used to drink as a way to cope with feeling like I was a useless, messed up idiot - doh! But now I realise I don't have to be - I want to turn my life into a positive self fulfilling prophecy instead of a negative one.
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I have found a direct corelation between the "awesomeness" factor of someone's Facebook life and their actual life. Like the cooler they look on Facebook the more they actually don't seem to have a life because they never really do anything cool they just hang out and post on FB all day trying to seem important! Lol
My whole generation is screwed. Lmao.
My whole generation is screwed. Lmao.
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Originally Posted by Weasel1966 
Still I feel the pain. But it's what I do with it that's changed.
The bad news is we get out feelings back.
The really good news, though, is we learn to deal with them in a, well, sane manner.
Nice post Weasel
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Ken - great post - we can never compare our lives to anyone else's unless we have lived theirs or they have lived ours. Good for you.
I agree with not going on FB often. Its too much pressure. I have a FB page but no friends I just use it to get coupons.
I agree with not going on FB often. Its too much pressure. I have a FB page but no friends I just use it to get coupons.
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Thanks.... The thing here is that I would typically internalize these emotions. Let them snowball into the next bad thing. Then use it to justify my drinking.
That's got to stop. That's all AV talking.
I am going to a meeting tonight. Xmas shopping. I have a life to live and it does not need to focus any more on what's not in it by comparison.
Nothing will change if I do the same things.
That's got to stop. That's all AV talking.
I am going to a meeting tonight. Xmas shopping. I have a life to live and it does not need to focus any more on what's not in it by comparison.
Nothing will change if I do the same things.
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