One day & step at a time
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One day & step at a time
well after spending hours on here I now know I am not alone and maybe..just maybe I can get a restful sleep tonight knowing that I can get back on here after work and seek support.
The hardest part of it all has been living in denial that I am going to one day wake up from a bad dream but until then I can stop functioning. My family, friends and co-workers are all as supportive as they can be but it seems like 4ever now & think I'm ready to start taking those steps to "getting on with my life"...
I know this is just the beginning of a long journey but tonight I will go to sleep knowing at least I'm ready to begin & that it IS ok to reach out for help. I also now realize that just as my AD has been and still is in denial...I myself as the enabler/co dependant have been too...so, until I take the steps to take care of myself I cannot expect to be of any help to her...
The hardest part of it all has been living in denial that I am going to one day wake up from a bad dream but until then I can stop functioning. My family, friends and co-workers are all as supportive as they can be but it seems like 4ever now & think I'm ready to start taking those steps to "getting on with my life"...
I know this is just the beginning of a long journey but tonight I will go to sleep knowing at least I'm ready to begin & that it IS ok to reach out for help. I also now realize that just as my AD has been and still is in denial...I myself as the enabler/co dependant have been too...so, until I take the steps to take care of myself I cannot expect to be of any help to her...
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Since that day things have gotten worst for my AD and it has taken me this long to realize that I DO need some real support. I see now that my idea of "rock bottom" and what the reality of that for an addict are 2 totally different places. Do they have meetings online that you know of for families?
I have been to an Al-Non meeting with my daughter last year before I even knew just how bad things were to get...she was clean at that time and working on her 30day chip but I felt relatively uncomfortable there..not sure why or maybe because I seemed to be the only person there who was not an addict in recovery...I listened to their stories but it just made me really sad...I didn't feel I could relate nor could anyone to me so I never went back..
Since that day things have gotten worst for my AD and it has taken me this long to realize that I DO need some real support. I see now that my idea of "rock bottom" and what the reality of that for an addict are 2 totally different places. Do they have meetings online that you know of for families?
Since that day things have gotten worst for my AD and it has taken me this long to realize that I DO need some real support. I see now that my idea of "rock bottom" and what the reality of that for an addict are 2 totally different places. Do they have meetings online that you know of for families?
We have a Wednesday night Alanon meetin here @ 9:00pm EST. It's in the F&F Chat room.
I'm glad you're here. One of the most important concepts of Nar-Anon andAl-Anon is that we can't do it alone.
I did starts and stops in Al-Anon for a couple of years before I finally found my "home" in a Nar-Anon group. I rarely miss a meeting now. It is an important lifeline for me. I've met dear friends who understand as few others could. I also did a 12step study group that was very helpful. Those 12steps changed my life.
Take care of you. We'll walk with you.
gentle hugs
ke
I did starts and stops in Al-Anon for a couple of years before I finally found my "home" in a Nar-Anon group. I rarely miss a meeting now. It is an important lifeline for me. I've met dear friends who understand as few others could. I also did a 12step study group that was very helpful. Those 12steps changed my life.
Take care of you. We'll walk with you.
gentle hugs
ke
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