Can someone direct me
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Can someone direct me
to any previous threads regarding if you can quit on your own without any program whatsoever? I know there must be some and do not want to waste everyone's time with duplication.
Thanks in advance
Thanks in advance
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You have to have some kind of program. You can't do this on just willpower alone. I have tried and failed on a number of different occasions. I didn't want to work a program or put any effort into my recovery. I just wanted to stop using and get on with my life. Eventually I realised I needed a support network and that I needed to do a lot of work on myself.
You won't find many threads about people working recovery without a program simply because there isn't many. There are lots of different programs out there. You just need to find the ones that work for you.
Natom.
You won't find many threads about people working recovery without a program simply because there isn't many. There are lots of different programs out there. You just need to find the ones that work for you.
Natom.
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Dee - if you don't mind my asking - did you have family/friends though that helped you through in person? AT this moment I do not want to be face to face with anyone on the journey.
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I do not follow any specific program.
I did not have any friends/family who helped me along. I had alienated most people in my life.
Books were my salvation in the early days/years and then in 2003, I found SR and have been here ever since. I had always turned to books in time of need and recovery was no different.
I think you should do whatever works for you and whatever it takes to become sober and we are always here to support you.
I did not have any friends/family who helped me along. I had alienated most people in my life.
Books were my salvation in the early days/years and then in 2003, I found SR and have been here ever since. I had always turned to books in time of need and recovery was no different.
I think you should do whatever works for you and whatever it takes to become sober and we are always here to support you.
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Originally Posted by natom
You have to have some kind of program. You can't do this on just willpower alone. I have tried and failed on a number of different occasions...Eventually I realised I needed a support network
Part of my problem was that a large part of my will wanted to drink.
Acceptance of who and what I was, and what taking a drink meant for me, helped me a good deal more.
I also agree that few of us can do this alone - I'm very thankful I found this community and I'm still glad to be a part of it.
Where I'm not sure I agree is 'You have to have some kind of program'.
If you mean some kind of belief system and recovery plan - sure...
if you mean one of the established recovery groups tho?
that's not been true in my case Tom.
Originally Posted by TTBABP
Dee - if you don't mind my asking - did you have family/friends though that helped you through in person? AT this moment I do not want to be face to face with anyone on the journey.
My family were not interested.
My friends were all drinkers or, at the other extreme not drinkers at all, and not at all sure how to help.
My partner has been an immense help to me...but I met her 7 or 8 months in.
I dunno if it helps, but this briefly explains my 'non-programme'
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post2531003
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Dee,
I meant just having 'something' in place rather than programs such as AA/NA etc. I am aware that people recover in many different ways and that although NA works for me it may not be the right thing for other people. Horses for courses. I just mean you need to have something. Don't just stop using and think it's all rosy. Put the work in, read books, gather experience, share your experience. Recover anyway you can.
Natom.
I meant just having 'something' in place rather than programs such as AA/NA etc. I am aware that people recover in many different ways and that although NA works for me it may not be the right thing for other people. Horses for courses. I just mean you need to have something. Don't just stop using and think it's all rosy. Put the work in, read books, gather experience, share your experience. Recover anyway you can.
Natom.
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Not one of those who goes around preaching NA as the best recovery tool ever. It works for me. But there is a fine line between attraction and promotion. We are all in the same boat no matter how we recover.
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TTBABP,
I would recommend reading the AVRT threads in the secular forum. This strategy is not a "program". It is based on what the self-recovered population has done for a long time in quitting an addiction. It can be done privately as well. See if it resonates.
I would recommend reading the AVRT threads in the secular forum. This strategy is not a "program". It is based on what the self-recovered population has done for a long time in quitting an addiction. It can be done privately as well. See if it resonates.
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When I think of a program of recovery it means a plan that you commit to and follow through on. I think by having a plan it holds you accountable and gives you direction in the early stages of recovery. A plan could be AA, time on SR, reading recovery literature, etc. There are lots of programs of recovery to chose from. I think the key is to chose something and follow through on the commitment. To just say I am not going to drink without any type program wouldn't work for me. tried that and failed many times. My program is AA, SR, and books about recovery. It works for me.
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Hi TT - I have been sober for a relatively short time - 33 weeks - but am doing it without a program. I've read a couple of memoirs/advice books I downloaded onto my Kindle, and taken some other common sense measures, plus am regular on SR. I've had the support of my doctor but I don't see him that often. Whatever works for you. I would do anything to avoid AA but by doc tells me and I can see from SR that it works really well for many people.
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I stopped drinking without AA. I just had enough and decided I don't drink. Rational Recover, SMART, and posting here did wonders for me. Alan Carr's Easy Way was a good read as well. But frankly, just stop drinking and getting on with my life was what worked for me.
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I can't thank you all enough for your responses. I am going to try everything suggested by all of you - hopefully something will stick. I'll keep you posted and keep reading here for advice and support
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SR taught me so much about my addictive nature. The good people here threw me a rope and really helped keep me from drowning.
There is a wealth of information in all the different forums, and there are stories that maybe match the type of problems you are experiencing.
The best thing is that someone always answers you and genuinely wants to help you.
welcome (and I think we might be neighbors)
There is a wealth of information in all the different forums, and there are stories that maybe match the type of problems you are experiencing.
The best thing is that someone always answers you and genuinely wants to help you.
welcome (and I think we might be neighbors)
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