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Old 11-26-2012, 05:57 PM
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So i know that an opiod addict can appear to be sociopathic..
1. I was wondering if the sociopathic behavior caused by drugs could extend beyond things having to do with drugs.
2. Hes says hes been clean almost a year.
How can you tell if hes not, or has relapsed?
We talk almost every day but i rarely see him in person.
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Old 11-26-2012, 07:54 PM
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Hi and welcome. I can't answer your question about relapses. It's always a possibility. I can't tell you whether he's a sociopath or not. But he's your ex for a reason. Hopefully you can keep a safe distance from him and move on to bigger and better things no matter what is the root cause of his problems.
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Old 11-26-2012, 08:03 PM
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What does your gut say?
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Old 11-27-2012, 12:25 PM
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When we're apart, i'm always warning myself about getting close to him.
But when we're together all i want is to be together.
Recently he's been amazing and i wonder if it's just a front, he's almost too perfect...but despite everything, at times i find myself blaming myself for being too paranoid about people...and i wonder if my worrying about him is because of that.
I can't help but wonder if he acts exactly like what i would want, or if he really is that way. I've read so much about sociopaths but none of it really helps because we all show those characteristics at one time or another.
I've tried cutting off contact quite a few times and it NEVER sticks.
Right now i find myself so attached that that isn't something i want to do.
I don't want to put him through anymore crap as he's assured me the only way i could ever hurt him is by not talking to him.
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Old 11-27-2012, 12:36 PM
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Originally Posted by Deya View Post

2. Hes says hes been clean almost a year.
How can you tell if hes not, or has relapsed?

How old is this guy? Is he employed full time? Do you lend or give him money or gifts? Does he live on his own? Own a car? Pay insurance? Are their children involved?We

talk almost every day but i rarely see him in person.
Why is this?
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Old 11-27-2012, 02:44 PM
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He's employed, and i assumed full time cuz he said there's alotttt of work to be done. He lives with his parents. I don't give him anything now but when we were together i gave him a free home when he got kicked out a few weeks into the relationship and my car... till i typed that i thought i did well not enabling. He used me a lot and did some pretty spiteful things which have all been blamed on his addiction.
No car, no insurance, no kids.
I assume we don't see much of each other now because both of us have lots of work to do on ourselves.
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Originally Posted by Deya View Post
So i know that an opiod addict can appear to be sociopathic..
1. I was wondering if the sociopathic behavior caused by drugs could extend beyond things having to do with drugs.
2. Hes says hes been clean almost a year.
How can you tell if hes not, or has relapsed?
We talk almost every day but i rarely see him in person.
Welcome to the Board.

The fact that you've found us and are asking the questions you're asking tells me that, in your gut, there's trouble down this road. The question you should be asking yourself is do you have the strength and the wisdom to listen to your gut.

Speaking from personal, intimate experience, I can tell you the consequences of not listening to your gut can be enormous.

Be careful.

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