Really Upset & Don't Know What To Do
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Really Upset & Don't Know What To Do
My wife divorced me several years ago and I quit deeded the house to her and paid her 20,000 $ over two years. She is living there. Now she is not making payments and because it is a co-sign my credit is going down the tubes. It is very frustrating. I met with her months ago to see if we could get me off this thing but she said no way. I know my drinking led to a lot ofr this but does it ever go away? Sorry just venting and frustrated.
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Yes, although my ex signed a quitclaim, I also had to refinance. Someone else may be able to answer this, or correct me if I'm wrong, but from what I understand the quitclaim removed him from the deed, but not the mortgage. The refinance removed him from that. I agree Mycool it is very frustrating. Unfortunately, I think inda's right, you probably need a lawyer to fix it, but omg who can afford that?
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I don't think this has anything to do with your addiction Fitz...unless you feel some guilt or misguided loyalty to your wife here?
Making amends for stuff we did then doesn't mean we have to harm ourselves or be doormats now, IMO.
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Making amends for stuff we did then doesn't mean we have to harm ourselves or be doormats now, IMO.
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I think I do Dee, loyaltiy means a lot to me but I'm on line with all my creditors trying to get ahead but the hell if I'll pay 5,000$ in back payments on a house I was kicked out of. but yes I still miss her I'd make a Great country song. But I shall not drink over it.
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
I don't think this has anything to do with your addiction Fitz...unless you feel some guilt or misguided loyalty to your wife here?
Making amends for stuff we did then doesn't mean we have to harm ourselves or be doormats now, IMO.
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Making amends for stuff we did then doesn't mean we have to harm ourselves or be doormats now, IMO.
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Needed to see someone put it that way.
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I did what I could I up paid all my debts. I'll see about a lawyer Monday. Of course my ex already checked and said I had no legal recourse but I'll see. I'd rather be in foreclosure than give anything else. Funny thing is I never wanted the house I did it to make her happy. When I was a kid I had all these jobs and my sisters didn't. I asked my dad why and he said someday I would be the man of the family and I needed to be responsible. Of course he lost his job over drinking as I did. Life is a gas gas gas.
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I can see why she would tell you that you have no legal recourse! I'd seek advice from 1) someone qualified ie a lawyer and 2) a bit more impartial than your ex!
You may feel guilty because of your drinking, and maybe you should. I know I do. But that doesn't mean she gets to ruin the rest of your life. You're doing what you can to make amends, don't let her trash your credit, too.
You may feel guilty because of your drinking, and maybe you should. I know I do. But that doesn't mean she gets to ruin the rest of your life. You're doing what you can to make amends, don't let her trash your credit, too.
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