soberbrah

I feel like I'm missing out on a lot. I have no friends, I'm 23 years old. I'm living in my parents basement. The only thing I have going for me is that I'm going to finish college in the spring and start law school in the fall. I don't know that it's sustainable to live this way.

Dee74

What do you think is holding you back from building yourself the life you want, soberbrah?

D

Windancer

Ive felt like that too. No friends, and like Im going nowhere. If it makes you feel better, Im 28 and moved into my parents basement a few monthes ago.
You have a LOT going for you. You are 50 days sober.....that is fantastic! Now it seems you need a plan to find some wholesome, sober friends (they DO exist, even in a young age group) and find the way that works for you to overcome your negative feelings right now.
You can do it!

soberbrah

I'm freakin trapped in this miserable existence

I was involved in something years ago that I'll never live down, and I can't leave my hometown as I'm dependent on my family and am suppose to work in family business

soberbrah

So that's what's holding me back Dee

OklaBH

oh honey being out from under that dark is the way to go

soberbrah

I'm less than three weeks out of rehab and my stupid freakin parents are drinking in front of me, and there's a nice big fridge full of beer down in the basement where I am

Windancer

Oh that is hard as hell!!! My parents did that too when I first moved in...until they caught me drinking all the booze. Try to think of the solution, not the problem. There IS a solution. You wont always feel this way.

Windancer

Can you move the beer upstairs at least? Would your parents be open to some come of meeting (Al-anon or something, if I am naming the right group) so they can learn how to help and support you better?

soberbrah

Man if I didn't think I'd feel like sht for going back to square one tomorrow I'd be drowning myself in bud light right now

Windancer

Dont do that! Like you said, you will feel like sh*t tomorrow. Are your parents approachable? Can you talk to them about the extremely hard tempation right in front of you?

soberbrah

Meh I just took some hydroxyzines to put me out

I'm not even that tempted about the booze, just having a tough time thinking about how I'm ever going to feel normal again in these circumstances

Windancer

What are hydroxyzines?
This situation can improve. You are not stuck forever.

serious

think about getting your own place. it's not impossible. people do it every day.

although the important thing is to stay sober, getting drunk won't fix anything.

soberbrah

I have my own place, that's how I ended up in rehab

katiedid722

What defines "normal" to you? If it's going out and getting ********* drunk, puking, making stupid decisions and feeling like **** the next morning then go for it. But for me, sober feels NORMAL. Your in college and going to go to law school, there's no shame living in your parents basement. You need to get up and about, do something, or go to bed. Tomorrow's a new day!

MythOfSisyphus

You're still very young! Don't get too down or write things off as a loss yet. You're just getting started! Sustainable is a relative term at the moment. You don't need to be living in your folks basement forever, just right now. Eventually things will improve if you stay sober. There's a lot of future ahead of you, Soberbrah. Just take it a day at a time and work on it.