TakingCharge999

Long story short, I made plans to see a longtime "friend" last Friday as I visited my home city (Mexico city). I was looking forward to meet him.

I texted him on Friday night when I was still on my way and he answered "I have been drunk since 1 pm, I did not go back to work after lunch time". I asked what his plan was. He said "Continue drinking in Y place" (WAY away from where he knew I was). It was around 930pm.

Duh, after several years, this is the first time I suspect he has drink issues.
He is a drummer in a rock band. We had our jokes. We had good times...

I continued my life without him and woke up to a message from him at 8 AM saying "I am destroyed!" as if it was fun. (Gladly for me I now put my mobile in Silence mode at night, I am really NOT in the mood to be woken up by a drunk calling me, ever)

I went to my event on Saturday and he was messaging me vague things.. at 4 AM he asked me where I was.. (as if I was also partying until then and waiting for him..).

I realized I am done with clinging to our good times and right now this person is no longer one I want in my life.. someone who does not respect my time.

The good news is that I saw 4 great friends during the weekend, and all of them were sober, made efforts to move around to see me, even invited me lunch. Normal life! normal friendships! YAY! I feel healthier.

Just wanted to share while I delete his number and block him from Facebook.

TakingCharge999

Now he just messaged me, asking where I was.
Its Tuesday morning here, I am working back in the town where I now live!

I guess he is just coming back to his senses (it was a national holiday, yesterday)...

Rosiepetal

It's sad really isn't it.
Completely understand why you've decided NC.
Good for you.

soberlicious

Not for nothin'...I wouldn't just delete the number, I would block it.

ZiggyB

Yeah that's annoying for sure...

I usually distance myself from people like that. It's sad some people think getting wasted is a sport or a hobby, and why do they feel the need to tell you all about it? They think it's amusing but it really isn't... it's kind of pathetic.

fourmaggie

as we GROW, we do change and change sometimes is the hard part
because WE GET IT now...

TakingCharge999

Thanks friends!
In SR I learned: "be done"

I am more than done!

I placed a couple of other boundaries yesterday. I feel great.

The funny thing is that yesterday, too, an ex contacted me- he is smart, fun and hard working- he is studying at Cambridge now, and I was thinking how great it is to interact with people you admire... people who able to grow up...