The time has finally come
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The time has finally come
Hi everybody my names Bradley and i have finally come to the point where i either stop drinking or become a lost cause. I dont mean to sound dramatic but thats how i feel, I have been drinkin for 8 years and im now 26, its become a problem during the last 4 years. I really wanna stop drinking and beleive i can. I went to aa for the first time a week ago and found it amazing the only thing was i had drunk before the meeting and felt like scum the next day. Im not alcohol dependent but am probably one step from being like that, the worst i have had is if i dont drink for 4 days i have night sweats for about a week. I have aa tommorow and am determined to make it work, if any of u could give me some advice id be forever grateful. one love
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Welcome bradley. You are wise to be facing this now, before you are totally dependent on it. I'm sure you've heard that alcohol is a progressive disease. I didn't understand what that meant, until I was drinking all day - every day.
When I was 26 the signs were already there - I didn't have the sense to be honest with myself. I went on for many more years trying to control my drinking. In the process, I almost lost my life. This won't happen to you!
When I was 26 the signs were already there - I didn't have the sense to be honest with myself. I went on for many more years trying to control my drinking. In the process, I almost lost my life. This won't happen to you!
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Hello,
keep going to those meetings is the best thing I can suggest. Look for the similarities, not the differences, in people.
I'm on two years eleven months now, so you can do it too. I was a hopeless drunk. Now I feel great.
Play that first drink through to the end and the misery it'll bring.
You sound determined, keep a good atitude and just don't take that first drink.
keep going to those meetings is the best thing I can suggest. Look for the similarities, not the differences, in people.
I'm on two years eleven months now, so you can do it too. I was a hopeless drunk. Now I feel great.
Play that first drink through to the end and the misery it'll bring.
You sound determined, keep a good atitude and just don't take that first drink.
You're smart to quit drinking while you're still young so you won't be full of regrets when you get to be my age.
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Hi Bradley,
Welcome!
I have found that, from the early days on, balance has been the basis of my recovery. I come here to SR, I exercise each day, I read books on spirituality and I have learned to listen to my soul. I found that changing daily routines helped a lot in the beginning, as in avoiding familiar stores, people, etc.
Know for sure that you can do this and we are here to offer support.
Welcome!
I have found that, from the early days on, balance has been the basis of my recovery. I come here to SR, I exercise each day, I read books on spirituality and I have learned to listen to my soul. I found that changing daily routines helped a lot in the beginning, as in avoiding familiar stores, people, etc.
Know for sure that you can do this and we are here to offer support.
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thank u so much hevyn ,ghostlight and least ,im sorry im a beginner so not really sure how it all works. does it get easier the longer u stay away from al;cohol?
ive never tried to give up completely until now, unfortunatel i cant moderate,
ive never tried to give up completely until now, unfortunatel i cant moderate,
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Bradley, For me it definitely got easier the longer I was sober. It felt very odd not having it in my life at first. I drank for over 30 years, though. It was part of everything I did.
Knowing you can't moderate saves you a world of hurt later on. I kept insisting I could do it. I think your attitude will serve you well.
Knowing you can't moderate saves you a world of hurt later on. I kept insisting I could do it. I think your attitude will serve you well.
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Welcome to SR Bradley 
Glad you're going to AA. I have found that it gets easier not to drink but then it is easy to forget why I quit in the first place. It's far too easy to get complacent. To me being sober is so much more than just not drinking. It's a whole new way of life
Glad you're here x
Glad you're going to AA. I have found that it gets easier not to drink but then it is easy to forget why I quit in the first place. It's far too easy to get complacent. To me being sober is so much more than just not drinking. It's a whole new way of life
Glad you're here x
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Hi Bradley - welcome
No.
I don't think it's possible...I spent 20 years trying to drink moderately.
No matter how good my intentions were...everything always went out the window once I drank.
Alcohol changes me. Alcohol and I have a toxic relationship.
If I were to drink 25 years from now, I could expect the same miserable results.
Not what you want to hear I guess but I believe there's no amount of time that can 'reset' a drinker like me.
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No.
I don't think it's possible...I spent 20 years trying to drink moderately.
No matter how good my intentions were...everything always went out the window once I drank.
Alcohol changes me. Alcohol and I have a toxic relationship.
If I were to drink 25 years from now, I could expect the same miserable results.
Not what you want to hear I guess but I believe there's no amount of time that can 'reset' a drinker like me.
D
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