For those like me with no one for the holidays
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ahh fitz,,, if you lived in uk,, you can come stay with me ,,, icook a mean roast dinner,, adn make a lvly baked rasberry cheesecake,,,, we dont get any snow ,, but i live near the beach,, we could build sandcastles!!!!
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I used to live by the ocean and built sand castles but they always collapsed. If well enough I have volunteer work to do. I guess I learn to take care of myself. If I can't learn to love and live with myself who can?
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Honestly Fitz,
There are a lot of people who have family and would rather not have to deal with them.
I think it is a stressful time and people are very often disappointed.
That day of all days is the day to do the volunteer thing.
The whole holiday thing is blown out of all proportion.
There are a lot of people who have family and would rather not have to deal with them.
I think it is a stressful time and people are very often disappointed.
That day of all days is the day to do the volunteer thing.
The whole holiday thing is blown out of all proportion.
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(((Fritz)))
I just was asked by a coworker to join them on Turkey Day. My first reaction was to say no and isolate but my inner voice, HP , who knows said yes. I am glad I did. I feel a bit pathetic but these are good folks I have hung out with before so I should not feel like a charity case. Hp will come through, always does.
Love,
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I just was asked by a coworker to join them on Turkey Day. My first reaction was to say no and isolate but my inner voice, HP , who knows said yes. I am glad I did. I feel a bit pathetic but these are good folks I have hung out with before so I should not feel like a charity case. Hp will come through, always does.
Love,
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I guess I can appreciate your loneliness. However, for these holidays, I wouldn't mind having your problem. I'm dreading being around all the booziness and toasts with family and co-workers.
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I was just thinking about this earlier. All the TV commercials with the Norman Rockwell family gathered around the table. Then Christmas with the perfect family under the tree - gorgeous home, decorated just right. Then all the relentless Christmas music starting before Thanksgiving. I know what you're saying, Fitz.
I'm not around family like I once was. Some of them don't understand what I went through, and sort of wrote me off. I'd like to feel better about the holidays, too. Not sure what we can do - but I hear you, Fitz.
I'm not around family like I once was. Some of them don't understand what I went through, and sort of wrote me off. I'd like to feel better about the holidays, too. Not sure what we can do - but I hear you, Fitz.
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Yeah, I was thinking what Nomis just said. I like my husband's family, where we will be going, for *3 nights*, but the beer and wine will be flowing for all of those days/nights. Especially Thanksgiving.
And I am only on day 4 today... Yeah. Ugh.
I hope you are feeling better Fitz and can serve the dinners. I want to do that someday, if we ever don't have to travel to hubby's family. But it is one of the few occasions where everyone is there.
And I am only on day 4 today... Yeah. Ugh.
I hope you are feeling better Fitz and can serve the dinners. I want to do that someday, if we ever don't have to travel to hubby's family. But it is one of the few occasions where everyone is there.
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Originally Posted by Hollyanne 
When and where were you happiest Fitz?
And, why?
And, why?
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This Christmas I'm not doing the family thing - and I'm very very happy about it.
I used to be very lonely...now I really enjoy having some alone time and being to do my own thing.
To a large extent, I think it's how you look at it really.
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I used to be very lonely...now I really enjoy having some alone time and being to do my own thing.
To a large extent, I think it's how you look at it really.
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