Christmas Cards
Christmas Cards
Should I send a Christmas card to my brother in jail?
He has made no indication that he is ready to get sober & my gut instinct is that he will see my card as an opportunity to manipulate me again.
Any thought? Are you sending a card to your addict?
He has made no indication that he is ready to get sober & my gut instinct is that he will see my card as an opportunity to manipulate me again.
Any thought? Are you sending a card to your addict?
Follow your gut instinct. It's okay not to send a card, I didn't send one to my sister in jail. Your feelings are the priority here! When I first started changing how I dealt with my sister, especially in the early days of the transition to healthier/no contact, I avoided any situation that would put me in a position to fall back into old patterns. I was prioritizing my recovery. I knew that I would get very upset by any response from her that wasn't what I wanted it to be, so I just didn't send anything. Trust your gut, it's usually right.
I don't have experience with that but my first thought was that it may be an opportunity for him to manipulate you but that can only happen if you let it. He always has the opportunity to attempt to manipulate you.
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Very True. I think you should do what you are comfortable with. To answer your question, my son (who is actively using) will be joining us for Thanksgiving Dinner. ( I will qualify that he is always on his best behavior when he is with us, so we never see signs on his drug use, or his drinking to extremes.) You can make no wrong choice, just follow what is in your heart, and stay strong with your decisions.
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