Another one lost to alcoholism...
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Another one lost to alcoholism...
Today one of my old sponsors called me to let me know a former sponsee of mine was found dead yesterday.
I tried to work with her in AA, but she never completely surrendered, and was not willing to do anything I asked of her. She was determined to do it "her way."
We all knew it was coming, just a matter of time.
She was an insulin-dependent diabetic. When she drank again after 3 years, she called me for help. I went to see her, she asked to be brought into town so she could attend a meeting. Her blood sugar was 500 that day and she refused to let me take her to ER. I've never seen someone that sick physically. She had been in a blackout for 3 days.
I have no guilt over her choices. What I do have is an incredibly heavy heart. It's a grim reminder that alcoholism is indeed alive and well out there, that it is cunning, baffling, and powerful, that it is a terminal disease if left untreated.
I'm angry because this is a treatable disease., but only if the alcoholic wants and accepts the help.
I'm also overwhelmed with gratitude that I have been blessed with the gift of long-term recovery.
She and her family will be in my prayers tonight.
I tried to work with her in AA, but she never completely surrendered, and was not willing to do anything I asked of her. She was determined to do it "her way."
We all knew it was coming, just a matter of time.
She was an insulin-dependent diabetic. When she drank again after 3 years, she called me for help. I went to see her, she asked to be brought into town so she could attend a meeting. Her blood sugar was 500 that day and she refused to let me take her to ER. I've never seen someone that sick physically. She had been in a blackout for 3 days.
I have no guilt over her choices. What I do have is an incredibly heavy heart. It's a grim reminder that alcoholism is indeed alive and well out there, that it is cunning, baffling, and powerful, that it is a terminal disease if left untreated.
I'm angry because this is a treatable disease., but only if the alcoholic wants and accepts the help.
I'm also overwhelmed with gratitude that I have been blessed with the gift of long-term recovery.
She and her family will be in my prayers tonight.
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In mine too...my AH is relapsing and is an insulin dependent diabetic.
I will keep your wise words in my head.
"I have no guilt over her choices. What I do have is an incredibly heavy heart. It's a grim reminder that alcoholism is indeed alive and well out there, that it is cunning, baffling, and powerful, that it is a terminal disease if left untreated".
Thank you for being a reminder of what is possible. So sorry about your friend.
I will keep your wise words in my head.
"I have no guilt over her choices. What I do have is an incredibly heavy heart. It's a grim reminder that alcoholism is indeed alive and well out there, that it is cunning, baffling, and powerful, that it is a terminal disease if left untreated".
Thank you for being a reminder of what is possible. So sorry about your friend.
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((DeVon)) - So sorry for your loss. It hurts, SO much, when we know there is a solution but people we care about aren't ready. My biggest hugs and prayers to you and all who loved your friend.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
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(((((DeV0n)))))
Her family and you are in my prayers. I know how it can affect us when we had worked with and in a sense become emotionally involved with dies from their addiction.
Then when I saw that 500 bs reading I almost fell out of my chair. Heck my doctor was ready to send my to the hospital when I read 346.
Wow. Her pain is gone now. Healing thoughts going out.
Lots of love and bunches of hugs.
Her family and you are in my prayers. I know how it can affect us when we had worked with and in a sense become emotionally involved with dies from their addiction.
Then when I saw that 500 bs reading I almost fell out of my chair. Heck my doctor was ready to send my to the hospital when I read 346.
Wow. Her pain is gone now. Healing thoughts going out.
Lots of love and bunches of hugs.
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Another victim of this horrid disease. I am just so sorry to hear about your sponsee and my thoughts and prayers go out to everyone who loved her. THis is just such an unforgiving, insidious, and cruel disease. At least she is at peace now in the loving arms of our Father.
Hugs and deep sympathy,
Mary
Hugs and deep sympathy,
Mary
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(((Hugs)))
Freedom, this disease is horrible, I am so grateful that you and many others here decided to have a different life. Your feedback here is priceless and helped me understand XABF.
It is so sad- beyond my pain, I can see the person beyond the addiction, and it is such a senseless loss. I will always miss my friend. Only God knows what his fate will be, but from what I knew of him, he always thought himself as hopeless.
Your friend is finally in peace now.
Freedom, this disease is horrible, I am so grateful that you and many others here decided to have a different life. Your feedback here is priceless and helped me understand XABF.
It is so sad- beyond my pain, I can see the person beyond the addiction, and it is such a senseless loss. I will always miss my friend. Only God knows what his fate will be, but from what I knew of him, he always thought himself as hopeless.
Your friend is finally in peace now.
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prayers of peace and comfort for all who love her ~
may she find peace ~
may all who hear her story find a way to be honest, open and willing to try something different and not allow this disease to take any more of our loved ones ~
special prayers for you DeVon ~
gentle pink hugs
may she find peace ~
may all who hear her story find a way to be honest, open and willing to try something different and not allow this disease to take any more of our loved ones ~
special prayers for you DeVon ~
gentle pink hugs
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